laid up

1.) In your opinion, what is your biggest character flaw?
i aggress rather than assert myself. i (used) to wait until i got to the boiling point before i addressed the issue which turned into an attack more than an argument (which is more civil than a quarrel).

2.) What do you think is one of the worst television shows ever created?
too many to name. i haven't watched vh1 or mtv in years. and only bet by accident lol

3.) Have you ever ended up injured after trying an interesting new sex position?
yes which is why i stretched before i tried it again lol

4.) How crucial do you think communication is between you and a regular sexual partner? Do you talk often about what works, what doesn't, things you want to try, etc or do you keep the discussions to a minimal and let the physical flow as it may?
converse before, after, during and in tandem with physical flow.

5.) Who are your favorite comedic actors/actresses?
there are a few. eddie murphy before he tried to release a singing album. will smith and jamie foxx especially when there is some partial to full on nekkidness. . . .

6.) In what way(s) do you wish your childhood was different?
i wish i was allowed to be a child.

7.) Cotton Candy; Delicious treat or disgusting mess?
treat with a gallon of water handy. mess if my hands gets sticky and dirty.

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today is one of those blah days for me. i'm not doing what i want with who i want and i lack any interest in putting on airs. for me to be so blah i sure did write a lot in response to these questions huh? lol

1. What makes a person sexy to you?
it's a combination of things. if i'm attracted to him (which extends beyond simply looks) and how he carries himself (the colloquial term being swagga) . i've seen attractive dudes lose all hope of sexiness because they are absolute bumbling jerks. and i know dudes who are stars in my inner thoughts just on swagga alone. (like ti that little short ruffian does things. and anthony hamilton who makes scruffy look good. and mos def who made me wanna do good naughty things in the back of yellow cabs ever since he was a driver in brown sugar)

2. When having the 'number of sex partners' talk with a potential significant other, would you be turned off if they had slept with more than a certain number of people? If yes, what is that number?
i was turned off because someone's number was around their age, but then i realized it only takes one to jack up your whole sexual health. i'm more concerned with sexual health than notches on the headboard. my number is damn near nonexistence in comparison to my compatriots, but that's their number and this is mine. i wouldn't change a thing.

3. Once and for all, pocketbook sized dogs and the people who carry them in pocketbooks. Cute or crazy?
crazy fad. and i'm allergic to long haired dogs apparently. i wasn't allergic to bally, but then again we always sent him out of the room. lmao i remember his head turning and raised eyebrow looking on quizzically. guess he never knew there was more besides doggy style.

4. Do you give up anything for Lent? If so, what?
i always intend to but i never quite follow through for the whole 40 days.

5. If you live with someone, what is the one thing you will never let them see you do?
and what if the person i live with reads this, then he'd know. silly rabbit!

wednesday

1. What is one thing one of your closest friends does that drives you batshit crazy?
she thinks because something interests/challenges her that that is supposed to interest/challenge me. we're close, but not identical sista.

2. When buying a new sex toy, what are the features you look for that you absolutely have to have?
waterproof and easy to clean.

3. If you woke up the opposite gender for one day, what would be the biggest downside to that for you?
i'd prolly spend time tightening up "the area" and playing with my new toy, so i'd prolly take the day off to enjoy as much of the full gamut of being a dude.

4. Do you use curse words in front of children?
i try not to but my nephew will say something like "don't say ass ladies. ass is not a nice word, so don't say ass okay? or fuck either."


5. If you were zapped with a laser and turned into an animated character, what Disney movie would you hate to play a part in?
binderella or bambi

6. How would you react to your partner answering a phone call or text message during foreplay or intercourse?
if we are already in motion, i'd raise my eyebrow like you better not unless someone is actively on fire. but if we were in cool down mode, i'd take that as an invitation to mess with him. i've done it before, a few times. his cousin took the hint, but he held it together to talk to his mother. i didn't stop though. ain't i a stinka?

7. What are three things you want to try doing but haven't yet? (They can be sexual or non-sexual, doesn't matter.)
vacationing with a guy i'm seeing, jetskiing, and giving birth

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1. Is there a sexual act/position/practice that you were sure in advance you would hate (or never try) and then discovered to your surprise you loved?
yes, the art of fellating.

2. Is there a sexual act/position/practice that proved a lot less interesting in practice than you thought it would be beforehand?
yes, canine coitus. it breaks the communication of eye contact. but i do enjoy being guided by my waist.

3. How do you let your significant other know you're in the mood? How do you let a new person in your life know?
i'm (was) almost always in the mood around the last s/o. the new dude ain't ready to show and prove. he better hope i'm still ready when he's ready or all of his curiosity will be all for nought.

4. How does your significant other let you know he/she is in the mood?
the last s/o would just blink at me. he had this goofy grin that would spread across his face and passed his waistband. didn't/doesn't take much with us.

5. Is there one that got away - a sexual opportunity you didn't realise was one at the time, or weren't ready for and regret missing ever since?
yes, the metal was cold but we coulda warmed it up. i shoulda stuck condoms AND baby wipes in my wristlet.

unsucked

. . . i wonder if i will cross post this one

this dude is selfish. this dude thinks i'm supposed to break out the bells and whistles to suit his fancy. this dude thinks i'm supposed to perform as prepayment for his performance. dude, you have a job to do that had nothing to do with what i choose to do or not do. dude, my skills aren't contingent upon yours. this dude has met the right one at the wrong time. this dude is two people.

. . . you're so vain. you prolly think this post is about you. you're so vain. . .

i like you but not as much as you like you.

selfish people leach.

leaches dry things up.

things like the alleged attraction. like the alleged curiousity. like the elicit (and illicit) compliments said only because dude thinks that will disarm me. wrong! the set-up is wrong. the initiation is wrong. the motive is wrong. the follow through is wrong. wrong except when it's right.

the sad part is dude had redeeming qualities . . . buried under all the bull he peddles because he thinks that's alluring. i'm a bit of a behaviorist. i note how you're saying what you're saying. just the same, i respond in kind. but leaching ain't my thang.

i'm a sweetheart and i won't let you suck that outta me.

the one where i want him . . . .

. . . but we have impeccably horrible timing. i dunno if he even reads these anymore. if he does, make it known that he's ready by reciprocating photogenically . . . . (freudian. i meant to say photographically lol)

(eta after answering the questions: these questions are a bit weaker that the usual TMI tuesday. c'mon people. give me a reason to divulge and overshare!!!)

1. What do find is the most exciting part of a new sexual encounter?
the buildup, the expectation, the learning, the fumbling, and the expectation of doing it again . . . in 30 minutes. lol

2. Do you have "a most exciting part of a sexual encounter" with a usual partner?
yea. we used to try to 'one up' each other. he'd talk smack and i'd shut him up or he'd ask me questions at moments when i couldn't formulate a sentence if you paid me. a good time was had by all!

3. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you just met?
as open as the situation requires. i'm usually good about reading people's need to know level. although i have felt the need to tell something that explains the hows and whys of me but we haven't exactly crossed that bridge yet. he might recoil.

4. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you work with?
again, need to know basis. i play certain things close to the vest.

5. How open and honest are you about your life with a casual acquaintance who lives in your neighborhood (or the parent a your child's friend or...)?
damnit how many times are we gonna rephrase the same question. same rules apply.
i only TMI those i know and oh anyone with internet access and time to kill reading blogs lol

Bonus (as in optional): Define a "normal" as in "normal relationship" or "normal sex life".
normal is so subjective and relative. my normal relationship needs to be redefined. my normal sex life needs to be more frequent.

before my bath . . .

i had a long day that deserves a warm, relaxing bubble bath.

1. What is the most exciting part of a sexual encounter for you?
the shared experience, the communicating with touches and glances and well placed grabs.

2. What is your favorite way to relax after sex?
spooning or laying my head on his chest.

3. Do you find sex with someone you have emotional attachment with to be better than casual fucking with someone you don't have emotional attachment with?
emotional of course. i've only done the casual thing (meaning no desire for a repeat performance) once. not my thing.

4. What was the last really horrible movie you watched? (At home, theater, etc)
over her dead body with eva longoria. it was on while i was sleeping. rather it put me to sleep.

5. What are 3 things someone could do or say during foreplay that would kill the mood for you?
call me by someone else's name, take too long (there is such a thing as overkill) and be selfish

6. Where do you think the best place to buy sexy lingerie is? Why?
my lingerie includes tee shirts ive collected, hipster panties and just plain nekkidness (no preamble needed). so i dont know a real answer

7. Do you think how a person dances gives you a glimpse to how they perform in bed?
not as a rule because you probably won't see me do much more than a 2step when i'm out. i assure you there's a whole helluva lot more than a 2step going on in my bedroom.

8. When was the last time you got served breakfast in bed?
about a month ago?