laid up

1.) In your opinion, what is your biggest character flaw?
i aggress rather than assert myself. i (used) to wait until i got to the boiling point before i addressed the issue which turned into an attack more than an argument (which is more civil than a quarrel).

2.) What do you think is one of the worst television shows ever created?
too many to name. i haven't watched vh1 or mtv in years. and only bet by accident lol

3.) Have you ever ended up injured after trying an interesting new sex position?
yes which is why i stretched before i tried it again lol

4.) How crucial do you think communication is between you and a regular sexual partner? Do you talk often about what works, what doesn't, things you want to try, etc or do you keep the discussions to a minimal and let the physical flow as it may?
converse before, after, during and in tandem with physical flow.

5.) Who are your favorite comedic actors/actresses?
there are a few. eddie murphy before he tried to release a singing album. will smith and jamie foxx especially when there is some partial to full on nekkidness. . . .

6.) In what way(s) do you wish your childhood was different?
i wish i was allowed to be a child.

7.) Cotton Candy; Delicious treat or disgusting mess?
treat with a gallon of water handy. mess if my hands gets sticky and dirty.

blah

today is one of those blah days for me. i'm not doing what i want with who i want and i lack any interest in putting on airs. for me to be so blah i sure did write a lot in response to these questions huh? lol

1. What makes a person sexy to you?
it's a combination of things. if i'm attracted to him (which extends beyond simply looks) and how he carries himself (the colloquial term being swagga) . i've seen attractive dudes lose all hope of sexiness because they are absolute bumbling jerks. and i know dudes who are stars in my inner thoughts just on swagga alone. (like ti that little short ruffian does things. and anthony hamilton who makes scruffy look good. and mos def who made me wanna do good naughty things in the back of yellow cabs ever since he was a driver in brown sugar)

2. When having the 'number of sex partners' talk with a potential significant other, would you be turned off if they had slept with more than a certain number of people? If yes, what is that number?
i was turned off because someone's number was around their age, but then i realized it only takes one to jack up your whole sexual health. i'm more concerned with sexual health than notches on the headboard. my number is damn near nonexistence in comparison to my compatriots, but that's their number and this is mine. i wouldn't change a thing.

3. Once and for all, pocketbook sized dogs and the people who carry them in pocketbooks. Cute or crazy?
crazy fad. and i'm allergic to long haired dogs apparently. i wasn't allergic to bally, but then again we always sent him out of the room. lmao i remember his head turning and raised eyebrow looking on quizzically. guess he never knew there was more besides doggy style.

4. Do you give up anything for Lent? If so, what?
i always intend to but i never quite follow through for the whole 40 days.

5. If you live with someone, what is the one thing you will never let them see you do?
and what if the person i live with reads this, then he'd know. silly rabbit!

wednesday

1. What is one thing one of your closest friends does that drives you batshit crazy?
she thinks because something interests/challenges her that that is supposed to interest/challenge me. we're close, but not identical sista.

2. When buying a new sex toy, what are the features you look for that you absolutely have to have?
waterproof and easy to clean.

3. If you woke up the opposite gender for one day, what would be the biggest downside to that for you?
i'd prolly spend time tightening up "the area" and playing with my new toy, so i'd prolly take the day off to enjoy as much of the full gamut of being a dude.

4. Do you use curse words in front of children?
i try not to but my nephew will say something like "don't say ass ladies. ass is not a nice word, so don't say ass okay? or fuck either."


5. If you were zapped with a laser and turned into an animated character, what Disney movie would you hate to play a part in?
binderella or bambi

6. How would you react to your partner answering a phone call or text message during foreplay or intercourse?
if we are already in motion, i'd raise my eyebrow like you better not unless someone is actively on fire. but if we were in cool down mode, i'd take that as an invitation to mess with him. i've done it before, a few times. his cousin took the hint, but he held it together to talk to his mother. i didn't stop though. ain't i a stinka?

7. What are three things you want to try doing but haven't yet? (They can be sexual or non-sexual, doesn't matter.)
vacationing with a guy i'm seeing, jetskiing, and giving birth

before my bath . . .

i had a long day that deserves a warm, relaxing bubble bath.

1. What is the most exciting part of a sexual encounter for you?
the shared experience, the communicating with touches and glances and well placed grabs.

2. What is your favorite way to relax after sex?
spooning or laying my head on his chest.

3. Do you find sex with someone you have emotional attachment with to be better than casual fucking with someone you don't have emotional attachment with?
emotional of course. i've only done the casual thing (meaning no desire for a repeat performance) once. not my thing.

4. What was the last really horrible movie you watched? (At home, theater, etc)
over her dead body with eva longoria. it was on while i was sleeping. rather it put me to sleep.

5. What are 3 things someone could do or say during foreplay that would kill the mood for you?
call me by someone else's name, take too long (there is such a thing as overkill) and be selfish

6. Where do you think the best place to buy sexy lingerie is? Why?
my lingerie includes tee shirts ive collected, hipster panties and just plain nekkidness (no preamble needed). so i dont know a real answer

7. Do you think how a person dances gives you a glimpse to how they perform in bed?
not as a rule because you probably won't see me do much more than a 2step when i'm out. i assure you there's a whole helluva lot more than a 2step going on in my bedroom.

8. When was the last time you got served breakfast in bed?
about a month ago?

I Shall Call It Mini Me

1. Why do you keep a blog?
i talk to myself 'cause there is no one to talk to. people ask me why, why i do what i do!

2. Who is one long lost blogger you wish would come back?
ain't been here long enough to miss anybody for real. my sister hasn't posted in over 2 months though. only one on my blog roll that doesn't rotate lol

3. If you made a New Year's Resolution, did you break it already? If you did not make one, why?
nope. i said i wasn't gonna hold my tongue. and i haven't. i speak my mind. don't like my peaches, then don't shake my tree!!!

4. People who still have their outside Christmas lights up. Festive or Lazy? Discuss.
they have until MLK Day to take them down. They get a ticket for turning them on after the 1st (grace period given until the saturday after the new year). after january 31, there's a ticket and a penalty. by valentine's day, you are fined heavily and your picture will be posted as a repeat offender in a 5 mile radius of you home. lmao


5. What is the last annoying song that got trapped in your head?
nothing lately. got too many thoughts running through my head and my heart.
*ETA: Take that back. I hear Ring My Bells now. Ringalingaling!

6. Have you ever worn or tried edible underwear? What are your thoughts on it?
never tried. i don't need edible underwear to intice someone to pull up for a meal. (wow talk about uncensored)

Bonus: If you could do one bad thing and get away with it, what would you do and why?
i have. so i can't tell you that. then i wouldn't have gotten away with it right? hehehe
the other thing involves a tall dude, some foreplay and the public. but they can't consume. only the tall dude : )

Let's see how coherent these answers will be . . .

1.) Have you ever stolen anything from a relatives house?
Yes, but not since I was 12 or so.

2.) If you had to changed lives with a friend from your real life for a day, which would you choose and why?
My sister. She's amazing and ambitious and resilient and brilliant and strong and loving and she maturing into her better self every day.

3.) Name at least one place where you would never have sex.
Well the one place I thought I never would, I came pretty damn close so . . .

4.) If you could change one personality trait in you significant other, what would you change and why?
I have no current SO. The previous one, I would encourage him to accept the love and support of others rather than shut down or "turtle up". Note I said encourage. I wouldn't want him to change FOR me, that's a superficial, hollow change. I want him to change for the better because that's what he wants for himself. (and none of this is any different than what I've been telling him for years)

5.) How important is the mood and setting to you when it comes to sex? (Do you need certain things to set the mood to really enjoy it, etc)
I don't need certain things. I just want the shared appreciation of the moment (or momentS, hint, hint) and mutual desire to please the other. If I know you're gonna please me, I have no problem relinquishing "selfish control" to please you.

6.) Which is worse, bad sex or no sex? Why?
Bad sex. Something is lacking/missing - communication, mutual respect, intimacy, desire, prowess. No sex allows for room for other things to take place - communication, mutual respect, intimacy . . .

7.) On a scale of 0 to 10, how much of a compulsive spender would you say you are?
6. My compulsive spending is consummed not splurged on the trivial. I tend eat my money, more than indulge in the tangible trinkets most compulsively purchase.

8.) Have you ever left a restaurant without paying the bill? Why?
Yep. Peer pressure. LMAO and they took entirely too long to come get the bill (over 30 minutes for a party of 2). It's a wonder we got away since we giggled the entire way to the car.

All About Cheating

Wonders how come this week's Wednesday Weirdness feels like a TMI Tuesday? And I always feel like somebody's watching me . . . can't get no privacy . . . nooooo oooh oooh . . .

1. If you knew one of your close friends was cheating on their significant other, would you get involved? (EX: Tell their SO, try to talk to your friend about it, etc) Why or why not?
I might voice my thoughts to him/her, but that would be the extent of my involvement. I don't sit on the board of directors in their life, like they don't sit on the board of directors in mine.

2. If your SO was cheating on you and one of your close friends knew, would you want them to tell you? Why or why not?
Better come with come concrete, irrefutable evidence. And even then I'd need to see it for myself. But if their motives are pure and evidence is true, then tell me.

3. Have you ever stuffed your bra or underwear to make the size of your breasts or penis seem larger?
Quite the contrary. I need ace bandages to hold down this 5 letter bra size!

4. Would you sleep with a friend's significant other behind their back if it were guaranteed you'd never be caught?
No. That would ruin 2 relationships. Not worth it.

5. Do you think you are more intelligent than your significant other?
I think my intellectual strengths lie in different areas than his did. We are both smart in our own rights.

6. Do you ever fantasize about cheating on your significant other? Are you ever tempted to really go through with it?
No current SO. But when I had one (and generally speaking), I'm faithful to hilt. As Rihanna said, I loved (was faithful) beyond a reason why.

7. Have you ever had cyber sex, text sex or phone sex with someone other than your significant other during a relationship?
Nope.

8. Would you cheat on your significant other twice monthly for half a year to have all your debt permanently erased?
Surprisingly, I half entertained the thought. Probably wouldn't though. I don't want to be indebted to someone in that way. I can't say I'd trade my body for my soul, if you get what I mean. A yes would probably haunt me. And I got enough shadows.

BONUS! Have you ever fantasized about having sex with any blogger friends? Would you be daring enough to reveal five of them?
I don't have 5 blogger friends. Or 5 dudes in general I'd have sex with lol. Those that I'm attracted to know that I'm attracted to them. What happens next remains to be seen.

Wednesday . . .

My pillows are in! Woohoo! Soft place to lay my head, drugs, only missing 2 things to make this day the best.

Yea I'm weird but that's what Wednesdays are for!

1.) Have you ever taken your clothes off for money?
Nope. I can be nekkid for free!

2.) Are you a morning person or a night owl?
Night owl typically, but I can do the morning thing when necessary.

3.) Do you take any kind of medication daily or regularly? If so, what?
Yep. Thanks NYC taxi who hit me in the ass a year ago!

4.) Do you ever have naughty thoughts about any of your friends significant others?
Yes completely subconsciously in my sleep. I was freaked out!

5.) What are your favorite comfort foods?
Warm, half baked chocolate chip cookies, Reese's Peanut Butter Cups, Pepsi, shrimp, pasta . . .

6.) Would you rather direct a porn or star in one?
Neither. My child might wanna be president one day.

7.) Have you ever seen a "donkey show"? Would you ever be interested in seeing one?
Nope. Sounds like a bucket of throw up and animal ish. No thanks.

8.) On a scale of 1 to 10, how gullible of a person would you say you are?
2. I wouldn't call it gullible. I trust you didn't lie until I find out otherwise.

Wanted: Firm. Warm. Perfect fit.

Concave. Release and relief. On the bed. On the floor. In the car. While traveling. Know what I want? A pillow silly. An ergonomic concave pillow. TMI Tuesday was yesterday silly. Seriously. I need this pillow. I've seen in a hundred times when I wasn't looking. Now that I want it, he . . . I mean the pillow is unavailable. My flattened pillows just don't fold and bend and support and bring restful relief the way it used to. Must. Get. Pillow. Today.

1.) When was your last visit to an emergency room? What happened?
For me, November 2nd, 2007. Examination following the car accident. For my 77 year old grandmother who decided to stand on a bed to hang curtains for Christmas last year. She fell and had a pretty nasty gash under her eye. I thought she might've fractured her cheekbone. Just had a nasty black eye for Christmas.

2.) Who do you look more like: Mom, dad or another relative?
My mother! Sometimes I walk by a mirror and I SWEAR the reflection is hers.

3.) What sounds annoy you?
A sleepy, whiny child. I have a high tolerance and I don't take my frustrations out on the child, but I'm like enough already. just go to sleep! And vacuuming. Just noise for no reason.

4.) What are three movies could you (or have you) watch(ed) over and over and still love?
The same ones prolly I will watch during my post-op hiatus: Love & Basketball, RAW, Brown Sugar (need dvd), Best Man (need dvd) Oops. That was 4.

5.) Do you ever wish you were someone else?
Nope just a better me. The grass may seem greener, but their water bill is definitely higher.

6.) What do you think of when you think of Paris?
I hear the Parisans are rude and the weather can suck at times, but I'd like to go to develop my own opinions.

7.) What'​ s the last sport​ing event​ you watch​ed?
Can't say. Football has been on but I've been bloggin or emailing or doing other things that drew my attention away from the game.

​8.) What do you think about sexual Role Playing?
Who I am is enough to work with on its own . . . so I've heard. w

Wednesday - Why not?

Kind of a hodgepodge set of questions from Wednesday Weirdness (look to your right) but I'm a hodgepodge kinda gal.

1.) As an adult, do you do anything for Halloween or is it just another day?
Nope. I usually just buy candy for the harvestfest we have for the kids.

2.) Do you ever dress up for Halloween? What will be your costume this year?
Yes I did. As a child I was whatever costume my mother could fashion out of a leotard and a pair of tights. One year I was a black cat. Next I was a pink bunny. This year, I tried to get a unitard and butterfly wings but . . . . Dunno. I might be naughty; I might be nice. Oh wait, that's Christmas.

3.) Have you started Christmas shopping yet? When do you usually begin?
I don't officially "start" or "stop" shopping. If I see something a person would like and I can afford it, I pick it up. Otherwise, me and my crew just spend some quality time together laughing. Love is the best gift to give (and receive!).

4.) Do you look people in the eye when talking? Does it bother you when people don't make eye contact during conversation?
Depends. Sometimes eye contact is too telling. What I think usually ends up on my face. I might be evading for a few reasons. I know when eye contact is a crucial. I wouldn't say it bothers me but have the decency to look me in the eye when I'm cussing you out! lol

5.) What excuse do you usually use when you want to take a day off work for no real reason?
No excuse usually. I just email out. Or I might email that I'm coming in late. Last time I did that it was because I felt a migraine coming on. Did you know orgasms help ease migraine pain? I read that somewhere. . .

6.) How often, on average, do you find yourself thinking about sex per day?
Lol depends on the day and where it falls on the calendar and who texted/emailed me last. Been "good" lately . . .

7.) What company makes your favorite brand of shoes? What makes them your favorite?
Most of my boxes say Nine West. Price has made many things my favorite lately.

8.) Do you ever save alcohol bottles once they are empty?
No. The point would be why?

9.) Do you enjoy musicals?
Sure why not. I break out in song in every day life. Why should song be relegated to musicals?

I Smiled Today. . .

Somehow I lost a day last night. I went to sleep on a Monday night and woke up feeling like a Wednesday. I'm sure it's going to manifest itself as a deja vu later in life . . .

Admission: I want you to spoil me. Not for the selfish reasons you may be thinking. But because I want us to get close enough to build trust. . . and not be afraid of that.

In unrelated news . . .

1.) Do you think you're approachable?
Yes but lately I haven't had much evidence to prove that fact.

2.) Out of the two, would you rather be able to predict things before they happened or be able to read minds whenever you wanted to? Why?
Predict. I tend to attempt to anticipate what's going to happen so I can prepare myself. And I have strong premonitions and clairvoyancy at times. Prediction is akin to that.

3.) Have you ever kissed, fooled around or slept with an ex significant other AFTER you were already broken up?
You been stalking me lately? The answer is yes. And I never regretted any of the times it happened. Lesson learned.

4.) Do you believe dreams are your imagination running wild as you sleep, your subconscious showing you what's really on your mind or something else entirely?
Have you MET me? All three. Could be something I ate, something said that I stored subconsciously, something I'm afraid of that manifested itself in my dreamworld, something I needed to see in another way, a warning, any combination of things. I'm Joseph the dreamer.

5.) How often do you use cuss words? Does your use of cuss words vary on your moods or situations?
Less often recently. And I've substituted letters and sounds for the cusses. Little ears and mixed company. Depends on who I'm talking to and what I'm talking about. Some words are ineffective synonyms. Ish is stronger than stuff. You get on my effin' nerves, etc.

6.) Do you ever purposely lead people on so you can get what you want?
No. If I'm doing anything that resembles "leading you on", we are both going to get what we want. I don't have time for the games. You lead, I follow.

7.) When was the last time you did something you told yourself you wouldn't do? What was it?
Earlier today. It was harmless on my end. But he may have read more into it. Just conversation. No more, no less.

8.) If you could​ meet one musician who is no longe​r alive​,​ who would​ it be?
Luther.

Because It's Wednesday

Just killing time at work while I pull this report . . .

1.) Have you ever purchased an item of clothing and intentionally worn it with tags on it so that you could return it the next day?
No but I have purchased something and decided I rather have the money. Buyer's remorse.

2.) Would you rather be late to the party, or the first person to arrive? Why?
Late to the party. I have a thing about being the first person to arrive. I'll explain more later.

3.) When do you usually begin your Christmas shopping?
Christmas shopping? Ha! I don't buy a lot of gifts you can unwrap for Christmas. No need to shop for my love! lmao

4.) What three cancelled tv shows do you wish they’d bring back?
Cosby Show the Next Generation (I just wanna look at Theo as an adult man! lol), Living Single, Will & Grace

5.) What do you have in your vehicle's glove compartment?
Windex wipes, baby wipes, sticky link remover thingy, Breeze's owner's manual, dead flashlight, batteries, deodorant, feminine products, caps for my tires, screwdriver/light combo deal branded from my mother's job, and strawberry air freshener tree.

6.) Have you ever donated blood?
Absolutely. I've saved 15 lives to date. Each pint saves 5 lives.

7.) Have you ever kissed or dated someone else's significant other? What happened?
Yep. Not my favorite thing to do. Nothing. Life goes on.

8.) Have you ever mistaken one product for another while in the bathroom and didn't notice until after you used it? (EXAMPLE: Washing your hair with liquid body soap, slathering hand soap on your legs instead of lotion after a shower, et cetera)
I'm sure I have but nothing is coming to mind. ..

9.) Would you/Have you ever dated someone who had a criminal record?
I think I have. A minor arrest for something non-violent yet stupid like malicious destruction of property. It's not one of my non-negotiables but I'm not exactly LOOKING for that particular trait either.

Wednesday Weirdness

1. How often do you talk to your siblings?
The bio, whenever he wants to ask for a ride or borrow 37 cents. The sisters: one everyday all day, the others often enough.

2. How well do you deal when given an ultimatum?
Dunno. Don't remember being given one. But if it's grounded in reality, I'll weigh it.

3. Have you ever dated someone or had a lover who had an emotional or mental disorder?
Lol. Undiagnosed bipolar, depression, something was up. Wish him the best, but that's her issue now.

4. How do you feel about crossdressing?
I can wear HIS tie, but he CANNOT wear my wrap dress no matter how flattering the cut may be.

5. Have you ever lied about the number of sexual partners you have had to someone? Why?
No. Never had to. That's one thing I believe in full disclosure about. You don't get to play with MY health. Straight talk makes for straight understanding.

6. Does your significant other have the same political and religious views that you do? How often do you discuss politics and religion with them?
My significant buddies tend to fall within the range. They make take a slight left when I go straight but we respect each other's views.

7. What sport, if any, do you find to be most boring?
Golf. Never watched it but it just sounds boring and stupid.

8. Have you ever honestly peed in the pool?
Yes.

Wednesday Weirdness - Because I'm Procrastinating. . .

1. You just bought a snazzy new leather jacket for an awesome price at the local outlet shop. When you got it home you found $2000 (cash) in the jacket's inner pocket. What are you going to do?
Keep it. I bought the jacket and it's contents! Then I'd pay for my St. Lucia trip outright and put the rest in a 6 month CD to be taken out and added to the rest of my spending money!

2. If you could change or eliminate one wedding tradition, what would it be? What is your favorite wedding tradition?
I dunno how traditional it is, but the little boy that runs around ringing the bell and screaming "the bride is coming. the bride is coming." Who is he? Paul Revere? Not having that at my wedding. My favorite wedding tradition is the committed, loving, healthy marriage part.


3. If you were on Gilligan’s Island, who would you want to share your hut with? Who would you consider it torture to have to share a hut with?
Seeing how I've never really watched the show I can't really say. But I would guess my sistas because the jokes won't stop and when they do, they can take they asses and sit in a tree (lol) and an available attractive man because who wants to be stranded with a bunch of estrogen carriers? lol

4. Have you ever called your current significant other by another name at any point? What happened?
I have no current. But I don't think I've called my exes by another's name to them. Maybe in conversation with someone else . . . So nothing happened.

5. If you were going to be famous under a stage name, what would you pick your stage name to be? Why? What do you want to be famous doing?
Rebecca Amanda Armstrong. I dunno why. It's been my pseudonym since 96. But I don't want to be famous. No scratch that. Fame might be okay. I don't want to be a celebrity.

6. During sex, do you ever fantasize about someone other than your partner?
Never had a reason to . . .

7. Which is worse, being in a place that is too loud, or too quiet?
Too quiet. I can usually tune out noise and loudness. Hard to tune out quiet and silence.

Wednesday Weirdness - Take 2

Because it's Wednesday night and I'm bored.

1. Would you rather be 3 inches taller, or 3 inches shorter than you already are?
3 inches taller would make me 5'11 flat footed and 6'2 in heels. I already have a hard time finding dudes that are tall enough. Shorter definitely shorter.

2. What are 3 words that could never be used to describe you?
hateful. ostentatious/look at me. unfeeling/apathetic.

3. Have you ever eaten something at the grocery store while you were shopping, prior to buying it? Did you pay for it when you got to the check out line?
Yep. Soda. I was thirsty.

4. If you could have any 3 materialistic things in this world without paying a single cent for any of them, what would they be and why?
an iPod touch with the largest capacity (because I need more space), my 09/10 navy Camry with gray or beige interior (bc Toyotas are great on gas), a beautifully decorated 4 bedroom house with an in-ground pool on LI?

5. Have you ever fallen asleep or nodded off during sex before?
Yes. I put myself to sleep.

6. What are 3 jobs you’d leave your current job for? If you don't have a current job, just list 3 jobs you would like to have.
motherhood, teaching, my own biz

7. Do you or have you ever answered the phone during sex?
No, but I encouraged him to answer a few times. Funny, funny mess.

Wednesday Weirdness - The Ex Files

Wednesday Weirdness, The Ex Files


1. When your relationships end, are you the instigator of the breakup or the recipient?
The last one I was the instigator. Took a while but I did it.

2. Do you save things from your ex, or get rid of them? If you save them, how? If you trash them, how?
I still have the letters I wrote him. A couple of tee shirts I sleep in. A picture of him as a child and a picture for the first night we met. I wish I kept my first ex's HS jersey - but it meant so much to him, I gave it back.

3. Describe your favorite ex?
Lol this sounds like such an oxymoron to me. But my favorite ex is hands down my first bf. He is/was my best friend (I always get confused as to what tense to use. We don't speak any more but that doesn't change the friendship and love we once shared). We could talk about anything. We encouraged each other and sincerely wanted the best for each other even if we couldn't be that best. We supported each other. The quality time was outstanding.

4. Do you consider a friend's ex off limits?
As a rule yes. But if anything should develop always ask your friend first.

5. Have you ever had sex with an ex? Why?
Simply put, something to do, habit, rehashing old memories, reconnecting.

6. If you had a choice between spending the rest of your life with your worst ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend, or your HS Nemesis, who would you choose?
I didn't have a high school nemesis so that choice is clear. My worst ex isn't a bad person altogether, he just sucked the big one as a relationship partner.

7. Would you ever create a YouTube video or a website celebrating your exes' flaws?
No. He already did that. He's the jack of all trades, master of none. He is indecisive and unfocused. He's great at whatever he's focused on but his attention gets drawn in too many directions. But you didn't ask all that did you?