the one where i want him . . . .

. . . but we have impeccably horrible timing. i dunno if he even reads these anymore. if he does, make it known that he's ready by reciprocating photogenically . . . . (freudian. i meant to say photographically lol)

(eta after answering the questions: these questions are a bit weaker that the usual TMI tuesday. c'mon people. give me a reason to divulge and overshare!!!)

1. What do find is the most exciting part of a new sexual encounter?
the buildup, the expectation, the learning, the fumbling, and the expectation of doing it again . . . in 30 minutes. lol

2. Do you have "a most exciting part of a sexual encounter" with a usual partner?
yea. we used to try to 'one up' each other. he'd talk smack and i'd shut him up or he'd ask me questions at moments when i couldn't formulate a sentence if you paid me. a good time was had by all!

3. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you just met?
as open as the situation requires. i'm usually good about reading people's need to know level. although i have felt the need to tell something that explains the hows and whys of me but we haven't exactly crossed that bridge yet. he might recoil.

4. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you work with?
again, need to know basis. i play certain things close to the vest.

5. How open and honest are you about your life with a casual acquaintance who lives in your neighborhood (or the parent a your child's friend or...)?
damnit how many times are we gonna rephrase the same question. same rules apply.
i only TMI those i know and oh anyone with internet access and time to kill reading blogs lol

Bonus (as in optional): Define a "normal" as in "normal relationship" or "normal sex life".
normal is so subjective and relative. my normal relationship needs to be redefined. my normal sex life needs to be more frequent.

before my bath . . .

i had a long day that deserves a warm, relaxing bubble bath.

1. What is the most exciting part of a sexual encounter for you?
the shared experience, the communicating with touches and glances and well placed grabs.

2. What is your favorite way to relax after sex?
spooning or laying my head on his chest.

3. Do you find sex with someone you have emotional attachment with to be better than casual fucking with someone you don't have emotional attachment with?
emotional of course. i've only done the casual thing (meaning no desire for a repeat performance) once. not my thing.

4. What was the last really horrible movie you watched? (At home, theater, etc)
over her dead body with eva longoria. it was on while i was sleeping. rather it put me to sleep.

5. What are 3 things someone could do or say during foreplay that would kill the mood for you?
call me by someone else's name, take too long (there is such a thing as overkill) and be selfish

6. Where do you think the best place to buy sexy lingerie is? Why?
my lingerie includes tee shirts ive collected, hipster panties and just plain nekkidness (no preamble needed). so i dont know a real answer

7. Do you think how a person dances gives you a glimpse to how they perform in bed?
not as a rule because you probably won't see me do much more than a 2step when i'm out. i assure you there's a whole helluva lot more than a 2step going on in my bedroom.

8. When was the last time you got served breakfast in bed?
about a month ago?

the big legendaries

i spent a good chunk of valentine's day throbbing while "arguing" with someone about how much we wanted each other and surrounded by a bunch of people touching and reaching in their pant pockets and bra cups for dirty treasures. and then i went out on a limb with an unrequited text . . . and mms to be more precise.

none of which was on my who-to-do list for this valentine's weekend. i wanted to touch (at some address that wasn't my own) and be touched (at somebody's spa). but one of the best moments of my 3 day weekend was watching shaq give me a new nickname. i shall call them "the big legendaries". the them will take on different meaning and intrigue as i see fit.

i didn't know who i missed more this weekend: the ex, the first or the missed opportunity. . . .

would you believe i waited up for these questions? hi, i'm private and i have a problem. . . .

1. What is your favorite charity? Do you you give your time or just money to that charity?
my church. i give both.

2. Describe your bed. What side do you sleep on?
queen where ive gotta many bruises. i sleep on the side closest to the door (right) unless i have an overnight guest.

3. How important is a partner's kissing ability?
important enough to make a difference. i don't think it would work out well if we couldn't get the kissing worked out. i'm a kissy face. and it's a given that he should kiss other places well also.

4. Have you ever "taken advantage" of a person under the influence of alcohol? Have you ever been "taken advantage" of while under the influence of alcohol?
i don't drink in excess enough to be taken advantage of. although the one time he brought smirnoff ices (yes i'm kinda a light weight - but i did drink like 3), i decided to investigate the whoopla about this head thing. ive never heard a complaint then or since.

5. Ever tried to replay the famous scene from From Here to Eternity? How was it?
not at a beach. but i have pinned and been pinned against walls, beds, cars, speakers, etc. while liplocked in passionate kisses.

Bonus (as in optional): What kind of birth control do you use?
i really shoulda been pregnant a few times already but i guess it really wasn't my time and he wasn't the dude to be tied for all of eternity. i was on the pill and between those hormones and my own active late-twenties womanhood, i got thicker in all the good places. i like the ease of transition pills give you but condoms are always in the bottom drawer.

Nobody Beats the Wiz

I'm watching Seinfeld and trying to ignore the dull ache for someone I'm not supposed to have . . . He was the Wiz. And nobody beats the Wiz! Which reminds me I need to get more batteries and go back through my rolodex.

1. What do you think is the un-sexiest part of the body?
male toes and toenails. so ignored and undressed. and goodness, if he plays a sport like basketball, his toes prolly don't look like a box a kittens.

2. Toilet paper: over, under, or what the hell are you talking about?
over. i like when it hangs over. (wink, wink)

3. Have you ever called in sick to stay in bed with a sexual partner?
absolutely. i've emailed out at 4am after i realized rounds 1 and 2 were going to lead to more.

4. Did your parents have a "birds & bees" talk with you? If so, at what age?
not really. although my mother pridefully tells her friends that we matched flacid penises to their erect counterparts in this "know your body"/sex ed book i checked out from the library. when i was about 16 she told me i know entirely too much about sex and stds and protection to bring a baby in this house. her line to me was 'i can't hold my hand over your coochie so you have to make the right decisions for yourself'.

5. What is one thing a someone could do to you to rock your world?
knowing when to grab me up by my waist. and there's nothing like a mutual orgasm to put each other to sleep.

Bonus (as in optional):What does sex mean to you?
it means i trust you with the best parts of me (if only momentarily). it means there's something to get me wet beyond just what the eyes can see. it means we have te ability to communicate with our bodies. it means i might wanna keep you around. sex is a door for potentially more. and if it's good, you might have to go on the speed dial!

TMI Tuesday - The Quickie

No preamble today. . . You should be ready and waiting . . . This is a quickie.

1. When you sleep with someone, how much or how little contact do you like to have?
I'm a cuddlebug. Once the heat subsides, I like to sleep feeling his heartbeat on my back with my heart in his hand. I'm the spooning type.

2. What do you think there is a appropriate amount of time for a divorce parent to date before introducing the kids to the "new" "special" person in their life?
I don't think you can circle a date on the calendar for that. I think the parent should make that call based on the level of commitment he/she has with her significant other and the age and maturity level of the child(ren). I'm not with that whole this is Uncle Bubba thing that some people do. Ain't that many Uncles in the world. I'm not a parent yet, but if I were, I wouldn't have a revolving door of dudes around my children.

3. Which ONE do you wish you had more of in bed... romance, experimentation or foreplay?
I guess I'll say experimentation although "in bed" is a criteria of the question. Romance and foreplay can (and should) take place outside of the bedroom. A bed is a minor detail that may be overlooked. And I have a couple of places and things I wanna cross off my list . . . .

4. What do you thinks makes a kiss great?
The feelings shared between us. Nothing worst than a passionless kiss.

5. Describe your sex life in two words.
Recently ended (sigh)

Bonus (as in optional): Do you remember a time when you were having sex that you smile or even laugh about now? Do tell....
Lmao. I had surgery on a Wednesday. That Friday, my ex came by to help me. . . . and after I helped myself, I took a nap (put myself to sleep). When he called to check on me later that day, he tossed around words like amazing and outstanding. Look, ma! No hands! lmao