Let's see how coherent these answers will be . . .
1.) Have you ever stolen anything from a relatives house?
Yes, but not since I was 12 or so.
2.) If you had to changed lives with a friend from your real life for a day, which would you choose and why?
My sister. She's amazing and ambitious and resilient and brilliant and strong and loving and she maturing into her better self every day.
3.) Name at least one place where you would never have sex.
Well the one place I thought I never would, I came pretty damn close so . . .
4.) If you could change one personality trait in you significant other, what would you change and why?
I have no current SO. The previous one, I would encourage him to accept the love and support of others rather than shut down or "turtle up". Note I said encourage. I wouldn't want him to change FOR me, that's a superficial, hollow change. I want him to change for the better because that's what he wants for himself. (and none of this is any different than what I've been telling him for years)
5.) How important is the mood and setting to you when it comes to sex? (Do you need certain things to set the mood to really enjoy it, etc)
I don't need certain things. I just want the shared appreciation of the moment (or momentS, hint, hint) and mutual desire to please the other. If I know you're gonna please me, I have no problem relinquishing "selfish control" to please you.
6.) Which is worse, bad sex or no sex? Why?
Bad sex. Something is lacking/missing - communication, mutual respect, intimacy, desire, prowess. No sex allows for room for other things to take place - communication, mutual respect, intimacy . . .
7.) On a scale of 0 to 10, how much of a compulsive spender would you say you are?
6. My compulsive spending is consummed not splurged on the trivial. I tend eat my money, more than indulge in the tangible trinkets most compulsively purchase.
8.) Have you ever left a restaurant without paying the bill? Why?
Yep. Peer pressure. LMAO and they took entirely too long to come get the bill (over 30 minutes for a party of 2). It's a wonder we got away since we giggled the entire way to the car.
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Last TMI of 2008
I have a love-hate relationship with these TMI Tuesday questions. I get to know what other's are thinking and secretly file in the information away for future use (wink, wink). And I get to think about things long since forgotten or yet unimagined. But the "hate" comes in because I'm not too sure how far my url has entered circulation. I would hate to get called into the office because of something I posted. Not that I'm ashamed; I just believe not everybody needs to know every detail about everything. I try to preserve a modicum of dignity and innocence.
But what I am proud to say is, these questions and the few archived ones I pulled out, helped me talk to my younger cousins about the TMIs of life without me coming across as preachy or over the head of one or giving the other too much ammunition to duplicate my dirt. It was another night of laughes and OMGs and surprise and thought and sharing. Things we shared tonight may affect our lives for the positive. I learned from them; they learned for me. For that I am grateful.
1. Last week was "The Most Wonderful time of the Year", but what are your favorite 2008 memories?
Hearing my nephew say my name and hold a conversation with me. He's shy and only speaks around those he's comfortable with. And he's so affectionate. He and his older brother have saved me from myself many days/nights/weeks in 2008. Oh and their mother is no slouch in the showing me love department.
All the laughs I shared.
The secret moment in time where I smiled bigger, laughed more heartily, when I went to sleep smiling, dreamt smiling and woke up smiling - and only he and I knew why.
Getting a raise at work when merit increases were "frozen".
There are more. And I'm grateful for them all.
2. What is the best thing you learned in 2008?
That I'm worth defending. I stopped letting people say just anything to me. I stopped letting people dump on me. And I did me FOR me. I learned to let my own voice be heard. And I'm not shutting up in 09, so deal! lol
3. On a scale of 1-10, how good was your 2008?
8.
4. What is your wish for 2009? What is your wish for someone else for 2009?
I hope and pray that I experience all that 09 has to offer. I hope that my fears don't deter me from the successes that bear my name. I hope that I have the wisdom to relentlessly build and support myself and others and the strength to demolish and destroy even when necessary. I hope health permeates every aspect of my life: spirit, soul, body, finances, friendships, relationships, dreams, hopes, etc.
For everyone else, "Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth. " - 3 John 1:2
5. Where was the first place you ever passionately kissed?
His house. Or my house. I don't remember. I do remember the way my heart swelled every time we touched. The place was irrelevant, as long as we were together.
Bonus (as in optional):Do you make New Year's resolutions? What is/are your's for 2009?
I don't make resolutions. I set goals and plan steps to achieve them. And sometimes when the calendar turns to February, I still remember what they are lol
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
TMI Tuesday
I haven't posted in a while. I haven't been feeling up to it. My body is telling me I'm doing way too much way too soon. I went back to work yesterday. Don't think that I should have, but seeing how my bills are due and I was going stir crazy in the house alone/lonely, I went back to work. My shoulder was burning and achy and throbbing at the incision sites, which just means it's healing. This particular pain has an end date so I can deal with it. In true TMI fashion, I should include a picture of the shoulder, but I can't do that without the inadvertant boob shot. lol
Other than that, I've been an emotional timebomb. Stress, holidays, hormones, huglessness, all that. I need help. I don't often say that. But I'm having a tough time and I need your support. Bottomline: I need to be touched. No, no. Not there. Still too sensitive there. (hehehe TMI!)
1. What is the greatest age difference between between and a SO? Older or younger?
2 years older. I've never dated anyone not born the Spring of 1978. Apparently, it was a good year for many.
2. What is the greatest age difference between between and any sexual partner? Older or younger?
This is a different answer. lol. About a decade up. And that's all I'm gonna say about that! (unless you ask, I might give one detail.)
3. Have you started your holiday shopping? Is it done?
Selfishly, I've had my Christmas gift from me and my family (we do one "big" gift from the whole family) since Black Friday. Dunno what I'm getting my mother yet (I got her Mother's Day 09 gift already so that should buy me some leeway.) And my nephews will get there gifts between Christmas and their birthdays. The rest of you can unwrap my love everyday!
4. What are the chances there will be a "naughty" present under the tree this year (either from you or for you)?
There is no tree. And probably no gifts to be unwrapped. I prefer my naughiness in its raw form. No bows necessary. Oh, and should I give a naughty, the bow might be the only thing to take off. . . . I'm so fresh! [pops my own hand]
5. What is your favorite holiday song?
This Christmas - Donny Hathaway. The Temptation's Silent Night ALWAYS makes me laugh and smile because I remember the year my mother and aunts sang it in the kitchen. She (attempted to) sang the falsetto AND the baritone verse. We have since banned her from singing and making macaroni and cheese.
Bonus (as in optional):Do you have a preferred time of day to have sex? If so, why?
I don't have a preferred time. But I'm a night owl, so I do my best work under the cloak of darkness.
Other than that, I've been an emotional timebomb. Stress, holidays, hormones, huglessness, all that. I need help. I don't often say that. But I'm having a tough time and I need your support. Bottomline: I need to be touched. No, no. Not there. Still too sensitive there. (hehehe TMI!)
1. What is the greatest age difference between between and a SO? Older or younger?
2 years older. I've never dated anyone not born the Spring of 1978. Apparently, it was a good year for many.
2. What is the greatest age difference between between and any sexual partner? Older or younger?
This is a different answer. lol. About a decade up. And that's all I'm gonna say about that! (unless you ask, I might give one detail.)
3. Have you started your holiday shopping? Is it done?
Selfishly, I've had my Christmas gift from me and my family (we do one "big" gift from the whole family) since Black Friday. Dunno what I'm getting my mother yet (I got her Mother's Day 09 gift already so that should buy me some leeway.) And my nephews will get there gifts between Christmas and their birthdays. The rest of you can unwrap my love everyday!
4. What are the chances there will be a "naughty" present under the tree this year (either from you or for you)?
There is no tree. And probably no gifts to be unwrapped. I prefer my naughiness in its raw form. No bows necessary. Oh, and should I give a naughty, the bow might be the only thing to take off. . . . I'm so fresh! [pops my own hand]
5. What is your favorite holiday song?
This Christmas - Donny Hathaway. The Temptation's Silent Night ALWAYS makes me laugh and smile because I remember the year my mother and aunts sang it in the kitchen. She (attempted to) sang the falsetto AND the baritone verse. We have since banned her from singing and making macaroni and cheese.
Bonus (as in optional):Do you have a preferred time of day to have sex? If so, why?
I don't have a preferred time. But I'm a night owl, so I do my best work under the cloak of darkness.
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
All About Cheating
Wonders how come this week's Wednesday Weirdness feels like a TMI Tuesday? And I always feel like somebody's watching me . . . can't get no privacy . . . nooooo oooh oooh . . .
1. If you knew one of your close friends was cheating on their significant other, would you get involved? (EX: Tell their SO, try to talk to your friend about it, etc) Why or why not?
I might voice my thoughts to him/her, but that would be the extent of my involvement. I don't sit on the board of directors in their life, like they don't sit on the board of directors in mine.
2. If your SO was cheating on you and one of your close friends knew, would you want them to tell you? Why or why not?
Better come with come concrete, irrefutable evidence. And even then I'd need to see it for myself. But if their motives are pure and evidence is true, then tell me.
3. Have you ever stuffed your bra or underwear to make the size of your breasts or penis seem larger?
Quite the contrary. I need ace bandages to hold down this 5 letter bra size!
4. Would you sleep with a friend's significant other behind their back if it were guaranteed you'd never be caught?
No. That would ruin 2 relationships. Not worth it.
5. Do you think you are more intelligent than your significant other?
I think my intellectual strengths lie in different areas than his did. We are both smart in our own rights.
6. Do you ever fantasize about cheating on your significant other? Are you ever tempted to really go through with it?
No current SO. But when I had one (and generally speaking), I'm faithful to hilt. As Rihanna said, I loved (was faithful) beyond a reason why.
7. Have you ever had cyber sex, text sex or phone sex with someone other than your significant other during a relationship?
Nope.
8. Would you cheat on your significant other twice monthly for half a year to have all your debt permanently erased?
Surprisingly, I half entertained the thought. Probably wouldn't though. I don't want to be indebted to someone in that way. I can't say I'd trade my body for my soul, if you get what I mean. A yes would probably haunt me. And I got enough shadows.
BONUS! Have you ever fantasized about having sex with any blogger friends? Would you be daring enough to reveal five of them?
I don't have 5 blogger friends. Or 5 dudes in general I'd have sex with lol. Those that I'm attracted to know that I'm attracted to them. What happens next remains to be seen.
1. If you knew one of your close friends was cheating on their significant other, would you get involved? (EX: Tell their SO, try to talk to your friend about it, etc) Why or why not?
I might voice my thoughts to him/her, but that would be the extent of my involvement. I don't sit on the board of directors in their life, like they don't sit on the board of directors in mine.
2. If your SO was cheating on you and one of your close friends knew, would you want them to tell you? Why or why not?
Better come with come concrete, irrefutable evidence. And even then I'd need to see it for myself. But if their motives are pure and evidence is true, then tell me.
3. Have you ever stuffed your bra or underwear to make the size of your breasts or penis seem larger?
Quite the contrary. I need ace bandages to hold down this 5 letter bra size!
4. Would you sleep with a friend's significant other behind their back if it were guaranteed you'd never be caught?
No. That would ruin 2 relationships. Not worth it.
5. Do you think you are more intelligent than your significant other?
I think my intellectual strengths lie in different areas than his did. We are both smart in our own rights.
6. Do you ever fantasize about cheating on your significant other? Are you ever tempted to really go through with it?
No current SO. But when I had one (and generally speaking), I'm faithful to hilt. As Rihanna said, I loved (was faithful) beyond a reason why.
7. Have you ever had cyber sex, text sex or phone sex with someone other than your significant other during a relationship?
Nope.
8. Would you cheat on your significant other twice monthly for half a year to have all your debt permanently erased?
Surprisingly, I half entertained the thought. Probably wouldn't though. I don't want to be indebted to someone in that way. I can't say I'd trade my body for my soul, if you get what I mean. A yes would probably haunt me. And I got enough shadows.
BONUS! Have you ever fantasized about having sex with any blogger friends? Would you be daring enough to reveal five of them?
I don't have 5 blogger friends. Or 5 dudes in general I'd have sex with lol. Those that I'm attracted to know that I'm attracted to them. What happens next remains to be seen.
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
TMI for Turkey Day
1. What is your favorite Thanksgiving food?
My aunt's yellow turnips. She only makes them for Thanksgiving. Otherwise, I'd say my grandmother's dressing sans gizzards (yuck!) but sometimes we are lucky enough to get some around October.
2. You can flip a switch that will wipe any band or musical artist out of existence. Which one will it be?
T-Pain. No question about it. Zapp & Roger would put my grandkids through college with that request.
3. You seem to be having an excellent day because you just came across a hundred-dollar bill on the sidewalk. Holy crap, a hundred bucks! How are you gonna spend it?
Call up a friend and invite him/her to dinner. My treat.
4. What is your favorite curse word?
Phrasal. WTF. With the voice-inflection.
5. Rufus appears out of nowhere with a time-traveling phone booth. You can go anytime in the PAST. What time are you traveling to and what are you going to do when you get there?
Wow. Selfishly I'd go back to the point where I was too afraid to actually have the relationship I wanted. And then choose the relationship over the apprehension.
Bonus (as in optional): You accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what's even cooler is that they endow you with the super-power of your choice! What's it gonna be?
Shape-shifter. That way I can adapt to any situation and still be true to myself. Or invincibility like when you get the star on Super Mario Brothers. I could use some invincibility in my life.
My aunt's yellow turnips. She only makes them for Thanksgiving. Otherwise, I'd say my grandmother's dressing sans gizzards (yuck!) but sometimes we are lucky enough to get some around October.
2. You can flip a switch that will wipe any band or musical artist out of existence. Which one will it be?
T-Pain. No question about it. Zapp & Roger would put my grandkids through college with that request.
3. You seem to be having an excellent day because you just came across a hundred-dollar bill on the sidewalk. Holy crap, a hundred bucks! How are you gonna spend it?
Call up a friend and invite him/her to dinner. My treat.
4. What is your favorite curse word?
Phrasal. WTF. With the voice-inflection.
5. Rufus appears out of nowhere with a time-traveling phone booth. You can go anytime in the PAST. What time are you traveling to and what are you going to do when you get there?
Wow. Selfishly I'd go back to the point where I was too afraid to actually have the relationship I wanted. And then choose the relationship over the apprehension.
Bonus (as in optional): You accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what's even cooler is that they endow you with the super-power of your choice! What's it gonna be?
Shape-shifter. That way I can adapt to any situation and still be true to myself. Or invincibility like when you get the star on Super Mario Brothers. I could use some invincibility in my life.
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Wednesday . . .
My pillows are in! Woohoo! Soft place to lay my head, drugs, only missing 2 things to make this day the best.
Yea I'm weird but that's what Wednesdays are for!
1.) Have you ever taken your clothes off for money?
Nope. I can be nekkid for free!
2.) Are you a morning person or a night owl?
Night owl typically, but I can do the morning thing when necessary.
3.) Do you take any kind of medication daily or regularly? If so, what?
Yep. Thanks NYC taxi who hit me in the ass a year ago!
4.) Do you ever have naughty thoughts about any of your friends significant others?
Yes completely subconsciously in my sleep. I was freaked out!
5.) What are your favorite comfort foods?
Warm, half baked chocolate chip cookies, Reese's Peanut Butter Cups, Pepsi, shrimp, pasta . . .
6.) Would you rather direct a porn or star in one?
Neither. My child might wanna be president one day.
7.) Have you ever seen a "donkey show"? Would you ever be interested in seeing one?
Nope. Sounds like a bucket of throw up and animal ish. No thanks.
8.) On a scale of 1 to 10, how gullible of a person would you say you are?
2. I wouldn't call it gullible. I trust you didn't lie until I find out otherwise.
Yea I'm weird but that's what Wednesdays are for!
1.) Have you ever taken your clothes off for money?
Nope. I can be nekkid for free!
2.) Are you a morning person or a night owl?
Night owl typically, but I can do the morning thing when necessary.
3.) Do you take any kind of medication daily or regularly? If so, what?
Yep. Thanks NYC taxi who hit me in the ass a year ago!
4.) Do you ever have naughty thoughts about any of your friends significant others?
Yes completely subconsciously in my sleep. I was freaked out!
5.) What are your favorite comfort foods?
Warm, half baked chocolate chip cookies, Reese's Peanut Butter Cups, Pepsi, shrimp, pasta . . .
6.) Would you rather direct a porn or star in one?
Neither. My child might wanna be president one day.
7.) Have you ever seen a "donkey show"? Would you ever be interested in seeing one?
Nope. Sounds like a bucket of throw up and animal ish. No thanks.
8.) On a scale of 1 to 10, how gullible of a person would you say you are?
2. I wouldn't call it gullible. I trust you didn't lie until I find out otherwise.
Monday, November 17, 2008
A (Mild) TMI Tuesday
1. When did you last use your cellular telephone as a flashlight?
In a movie theater when I saw The Secret Life of Bees
2. On a scale from 1-10, how comfy are you being naked?
Solo, 10. With people I love seeing me, 8. With new people seeing me, 4.
3. What is the longest you've ever been celibate after having lost your virginity?
Definitely a year, maybe 2. I lost track.
4. Have you ever had sex in a car? If yes, since you were a teenager?
I would have to answer no to the intercourse.
5. When did you last use food or drink as medication?
Almost every day Pepsi is my upper. Chocolate is my anti-depressant.
Bonus:
Name three words that:
a) get you excited - I want you
b) make you squirm - I want you
c) make you laugh - I want you (lmao)
In a movie theater when I saw The Secret Life of Bees
2. On a scale from 1-10, how comfy are you being naked?
Solo, 10. With people I love seeing me, 8. With new people seeing me, 4.
3. What is the longest you've ever been celibate after having lost your virginity?
Definitely a year, maybe 2. I lost track.
4. Have you ever had sex in a car? If yes, since you were a teenager?
I would have to answer no to the intercourse.
5. When did you last use food or drink as medication?
Almost every day Pepsi is my upper. Chocolate is my anti-depressant.
Bonus:
Name three words that:
a) get you excited - I want you
b) make you squirm - I want you
c) make you laugh - I want you (lmao)
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Wanted: Firm. Warm. Perfect fit.
Concave. Release and relief. On the bed. On the floor. In the car. While traveling. Know what I want? A pillow silly. An ergonomic concave pillow. TMI Tuesday was yesterday silly. Seriously. I need this pillow. I've seen in a hundred times when I wasn't looking. Now that I want it, he . . . I mean the pillow is unavailable. My flattened pillows just don't fold and bend and support and bring restful relief the way it used to. Must. Get. Pillow. Today.
1.) When was your last visit to an emergency room? What happened?
For me, November 2nd, 2007. Examination following the car accident. For my 77 year old grandmother who decided to stand on a bed to hang curtains for Christmas last year. She fell and had a pretty nasty gash under her eye. I thought she might've fractured her cheekbone. Just had a nasty black eye for Christmas.
2.) Who do you look more like: Mom, dad or another relative?
My mother! Sometimes I walk by a mirror and I SWEAR the reflection is hers.
3.) What sounds annoy you?
A sleepy, whiny child. I have a high tolerance and I don't take my frustrations out on the child, but I'm like enough already. just go to sleep! And vacuuming. Just noise for no reason.
4.) What are three movies could you (or have you) watch(ed) over and over and still love?
The same ones prolly I will watch during my post-op hiatus: Love & Basketball, RAW, Brown Sugar (need dvd), Best Man (need dvd) Oops. That was 4.
5.) Do you ever wish you were someone else?
Nope just a better me. The grass may seem greener, but their water bill is definitely higher.
6.) What do you think of when you think of Paris?
I hear the Parisans are rude and the weather can suck at times, but I'd like to go to develop my own opinions.
7.) What' s the last sporting event you watched?
Can't say. Football has been on but I've been bloggin or emailing or doing other things that drew my attention away from the game.
8.) What do you think about sexual Role Playing?
Who I am is enough to work with on its own . . . so I've heard. w
1.) When was your last visit to an emergency room? What happened?
For me, November 2nd, 2007. Examination following the car accident. For my 77 year old grandmother who decided to stand on a bed to hang curtains for Christmas last year. She fell and had a pretty nasty gash under her eye. I thought she might've fractured her cheekbone. Just had a nasty black eye for Christmas.
2.) Who do you look more like: Mom, dad or another relative?
My mother! Sometimes I walk by a mirror and I SWEAR the reflection is hers.
3.) What sounds annoy you?
A sleepy, whiny child. I have a high tolerance and I don't take my frustrations out on the child, but I'm like enough already. just go to sleep! And vacuuming. Just noise for no reason.
4.) What are three movies could you (or have you) watch(ed) over and over and still love?
The same ones prolly I will watch during my post-op hiatus: Love & Basketball, RAW, Brown Sugar (need dvd), Best Man (need dvd) Oops. That was 4.
5.) Do you ever wish you were someone else?
Nope just a better me. The grass may seem greener, but their water bill is definitely higher.
6.) What do you think of when you think of Paris?
I hear the Parisans are rude and the weather can suck at times, but I'd like to go to develop my own opinions.
7.) What' s the last sporting event you watched?
Can't say. Football has been on but I've been bloggin or emailing or doing other things that drew my attention away from the game.
8.) What do you think about sexual Role Playing?
Who I am is enough to work with on its own . . . so I've heard. w
Monday, November 10, 2008
TMI Tuesday
1. Ever been skinny dipping?
Nope. My nekkidness isn't for public consumption.
2. How often do you kiss or make out without it simply being a foreplay activity?
Not often enough. I'm a kissyface. I kiss hello, goodbye, on commercials, because you blinked, because I smiled, just because.
3. On a scale of 1-10, how content are you with your life? (1 is lowest, 10 is highest) Do you think 'content' and 'happy' the same thing?
I am 7-8 on the contentment scale. And content and happy are NOT the same thing. Things/people make you happy. You embrace contentment. Subtle but powerful distinction. Contentment is realizing that not everything is good but things will work out for your good.
4. What do you do to relieve stress?
Depends. Vent, think, blog, talk, hug, cry, cuss, envelope myself in music. Sex works but is a complicated, short lived route. Eat and sleep. Ask for support. And then address what what stressing me out.
5. What was the special trait in your first lover that made you decide that they were "the one?"
We could talk about everything. We understood each other and he valued me for me. He was genuine. Never pressured. And no matter which of the 3 outcomes we got, I knew he'd support us by supporting me. I was right. He was the best man for the job. Although the position has since been refined. lol
Bonus: How old were you when you first had sex? (positive experiences here...)
2 months shy of my 18th birthday. Valentine's weekend.
Nope. My nekkidness isn't for public consumption.
2. How often do you kiss or make out without it simply being a foreplay activity?
Not often enough. I'm a kissyface. I kiss hello, goodbye, on commercials, because you blinked, because I smiled, just because.
3. On a scale of 1-10, how content are you with your life? (1 is lowest, 10 is highest) Do you think 'content' and 'happy' the same thing?
I am 7-8 on the contentment scale. And content and happy are NOT the same thing. Things/people make you happy. You embrace contentment. Subtle but powerful distinction. Contentment is realizing that not everything is good but things will work out for your good.
4. What do you do to relieve stress?
Depends. Vent, think, blog, talk, hug, cry, cuss, envelope myself in music. Sex works but is a complicated, short lived route. Eat and sleep. Ask for support. And then address what what stressing me out.
5. What was the special trait in your first lover that made you decide that they were "the one?"
We could talk about everything. We understood each other and he valued me for me. He was genuine. Never pressured. And no matter which of the 3 outcomes we got, I knew he'd support us by supporting me. I was right. He was the best man for the job. Although the position has since been refined. lol
Bonus: How old were you when you first had sex? (positive experiences here...)
2 months shy of my 18th birthday. Valentine's weekend.
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Wednesday - Why not?
Kind of a hodgepodge set of questions from Wednesday Weirdness (look to your right) but I'm a hodgepodge kinda gal.
1.) As an adult, do you do anything for Halloween or is it just another day?
Nope. I usually just buy candy for the harvestfest we have for the kids.
2.) Do you ever dress up for Halloween? What will be your costume this year?
Yes I did. As a child I was whatever costume my mother could fashion out of a leotard and a pair of tights. One year I was a black cat. Next I was a pink bunny. This year, I tried to get a unitard and butterfly wings but . . . . Dunno. I might be naughty; I might be nice. Oh wait, that's Christmas.
3.) Have you started Christmas shopping yet? When do you usually begin?
I don't officially "start" or "stop" shopping. If I see something a person would like and I can afford it, I pick it up. Otherwise, me and my crew just spend some quality time together laughing. Love is the best gift to give (and receive!).
4.) Do you look people in the eye when talking? Does it bother you when people don't make eye contact during conversation?
Depends. Sometimes eye contact is too telling. What I think usually ends up on my face. I might be evading for a few reasons. I know when eye contact is a crucial. I wouldn't say it bothers me but have the decency to look me in the eye when I'm cussing you out! lol
5.) What excuse do you usually use when you want to take a day off work for no real reason?
No excuse usually. I just email out. Or I might email that I'm coming in late. Last time I did that it was because I felt a migraine coming on. Did you know orgasms help ease migraine pain? I read that somewhere. . .
6.) How often, on average, do you find yourself thinking about sex per day?
Lol depends on the day and where it falls on the calendar and who texted/emailed me last. Been "good" lately . . .
7.) What company makes your favorite brand of shoes? What makes them your favorite?
Most of my boxes say Nine West. Price has made many things my favorite lately.
8.) Do you ever save alcohol bottles once they are empty?
No. The point would be why?
9.) Do you enjoy musicals?
Sure why not. I break out in song in every day life. Why should song be relegated to musicals?
1.) As an adult, do you do anything for Halloween or is it just another day?
Nope. I usually just buy candy for the harvestfest we have for the kids.
2.) Do you ever dress up for Halloween? What will be your costume this year?
Yes I did. As a child I was whatever costume my mother could fashion out of a leotard and a pair of tights. One year I was a black cat. Next I was a pink bunny. This year, I tried to get a unitard and butterfly wings but . . . . Dunno. I might be naughty; I might be nice. Oh wait, that's Christmas.
3.) Have you started Christmas shopping yet? When do you usually begin?
I don't officially "start" or "stop" shopping. If I see something a person would like and I can afford it, I pick it up. Otherwise, me and my crew just spend some quality time together laughing. Love is the best gift to give (and receive!).
4.) Do you look people in the eye when talking? Does it bother you when people don't make eye contact during conversation?
Depends. Sometimes eye contact is too telling. What I think usually ends up on my face. I might be evading for a few reasons. I know when eye contact is a crucial. I wouldn't say it bothers me but have the decency to look me in the eye when I'm cussing you out! lol
5.) What excuse do you usually use when you want to take a day off work for no real reason?
No excuse usually. I just email out. Or I might email that I'm coming in late. Last time I did that it was because I felt a migraine coming on. Did you know orgasms help ease migraine pain? I read that somewhere. . .
6.) How often, on average, do you find yourself thinking about sex per day?
Lol depends on the day and where it falls on the calendar and who texted/emailed me last. Been "good" lately . . .
7.) What company makes your favorite brand of shoes? What makes them your favorite?
Most of my boxes say Nine West. Price has made many things my favorite lately.
8.) Do you ever save alcohol bottles once they are empty?
No. The point would be why?
9.) Do you enjoy musicals?
Sure why not. I break out in song in every day life. Why should song be relegated to musicals?
Monday, October 27, 2008
TMI Tuesday - Firsts
First names and approximate age is fine too many of you aren't anonymous and too many of you wish to stay anonymous.
1. Who and when was your first crush?
Good one. Not sure. Real crush? Hysiem. Older boy during the Jersey years, maybe 89. He might have been 12.
2. Who and when was your first date?
Double date. Me, SBW, Mo F. and Stewie. 96.
3. Who and when was your first kiss?
Oh hell. That I remember and count? Hassan. 91-92. 6th grade.
4. Who and when was your first partner while "fooling around" in car?
SBW. His Mom's Accord. 96.
5. Who and when was your first partner while "fooling around" in a house?
SBW. His house. 96 was a great and busy year
6. Who and when was your first love?
Wow. These questions are all about my first first lmao. First love in 96. First first in 98.
Bonus: Who's blog did you first comment on?
Finally. A new answer. Organized Noise. : p
1. Who and when was your first crush?
Good one. Not sure. Real crush? Hysiem. Older boy during the Jersey years, maybe 89. He might have been 12.
2. Who and when was your first date?
Double date. Me, SBW, Mo F. and Stewie. 96.
3. Who and when was your first kiss?
Oh hell. That I remember and count? Hassan. 91-92. 6th grade.
4. Who and when was your first partner while "fooling around" in car?
SBW. His Mom's Accord. 96.
5. Who and when was your first partner while "fooling around" in a house?
SBW. His house. 96 was a great and busy year
6. Who and when was your first love?
Wow. These questions are all about my first first lmao. First love in 96. First first in 98.
Bonus: Who's blog did you first comment on?
Finally. A new answer. Organized Noise. : p
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
TMI Tuesday
Looks like I'll be having some gook vacuumed out of my shoulder soon . . . Oh joy!
1. Have you ever felt guilty or ashamed after a sexual experience?
Given my personal history, that would be a yes. But not lately, quite unashamedly!
2. Did you ever own a fake ID?
No but I had a fake crayon colored surface transit pass in an ID case. Does that count?
3. How often do you tell white lies? Is it with or without thinking?
Less often. I always think my lies out at least 3 steps lol
4. On a scale of 1-10, how well do you receive constructive criticism?
Depending on venue and who's delivering and the intent, maybe an 8. But generally, if you are gunning for me, I blaze back.
5. Have you ever shaved your pubic hair?
Absolutely. Trimmed and groomed regularly.
Bonus: What percentage of women do you think are capable of handling being in a "friends with benefits" relationship? How about men?
Dunno about percentages and stuff but I think both sexes fabricate their "capability" in that area. We all think we can handle it . . . until the feelings spring up. I think it's about 51/49 women overestimate.
1. Have you ever felt guilty or ashamed after a sexual experience?
Given my personal history, that would be a yes. But not lately, quite unashamedly!
2. Did you ever own a fake ID?
No but I had a fake crayon colored surface transit pass in an ID case. Does that count?
3. How often do you tell white lies? Is it with or without thinking?
Less often. I always think my lies out at least 3 steps lol
4. On a scale of 1-10, how well do you receive constructive criticism?
Depending on venue and who's delivering and the intent, maybe an 8. But generally, if you are gunning for me, I blaze back.
5. Have you ever shaved your pubic hair?
Absolutely. Trimmed and groomed regularly.
Bonus: What percentage of women do you think are capable of handling being in a "friends with benefits" relationship? How about men?
Dunno about percentages and stuff but I think both sexes fabricate their "capability" in that area. We all think we can handle it . . . until the feelings spring up. I think it's about 51/49 women overestimate.
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
The Piggy Bank
There was a couple who were big over-spenders. They always dreamed to spend holidays in Hawaii, but were never able to save any money to do so.
One day they came up with an idea--each time they had sex, they would put $20.00 bill into a piggy bank. They followed that procedure for about a year. When they decided that there was enough money for their dream vacation, they broke the piggy bank.
The husband looked at their savings and said: "Isn't it strange? Each time we had sex, I put $20 into the piggy. But I see tons of $50 bills and a few $100 bills."
The wife replied, "Do you think that everybody is as stingy as you are?"
One day they came up with an idea--each time they had sex, they would put $20.00 bill into a piggy bank. They followed that procedure for about a year. When they decided that there was enough money for their dream vacation, they broke the piggy bank.
The husband looked at their savings and said: "Isn't it strange? Each time we had sex, I put $20 into the piggy. But I see tons of $50 bills and a few $100 bills."
The wife replied, "Do you think that everybody is as stingy as you are?"
I Smiled Today. . .
Somehow I lost a day last night. I went to sleep on a Monday night and woke up feeling like a Wednesday. I'm sure it's going to manifest itself as a deja vu later in life . . .
Admission: I want you to spoil me. Not for the selfish reasons you may be thinking. But because I want us to get close enough to build trust. . . and not be afraid of that.
In unrelated news . . .
1.) Do you think you're approachable?
Yes but lately I haven't had much evidence to prove that fact.
2.) Out of the two, would you rather be able to predict things before they happened or be able to read minds whenever you wanted to? Why?
Predict. I tend to attempt to anticipate what's going to happen so I can prepare myself. And I have strong premonitions and clairvoyancy at times. Prediction is akin to that.
3.) Have you ever kissed, fooled around or slept with an ex significant other AFTER you were already broken up?
You been stalking me lately? The answer is yes. And I never regretted any of the times it happened. Lesson learned.
4.) Do you believe dreams are your imagination running wild as you sleep, your subconscious showing you what's really on your mind or something else entirely?
Have you MET me? All three. Could be something I ate, something said that I stored subconsciously, something I'm afraid of that manifested itself in my dreamworld, something I needed to see in another way, a warning, any combination of things. I'm Joseph the dreamer.
5.) How often do you use cuss words? Does your use of cuss words vary on your moods or situations?
Less often recently. And I've substituted letters and sounds for the cusses. Little ears and mixed company. Depends on who I'm talking to and what I'm talking about. Some words are ineffective synonyms. Ish is stronger than stuff. You get on my effin' nerves, etc.
6.) Do you ever purposely lead people on so you can get what you want?
No. If I'm doing anything that resembles "leading you on", we are both going to get what we want. I don't have time for the games. You lead, I follow.
7.) When was the last time you did something you told yourself you wouldn't do? What was it?
Earlier today. It was harmless on my end. But he may have read more into it. Just conversation. No more, no less.
8.) If you could meet one musician who is no longer alive, who would it be?
Luther.
Admission: I want you to spoil me. Not for the selfish reasons you may be thinking. But because I want us to get close enough to build trust. . . and not be afraid of that.
In unrelated news . . .
1.) Do you think you're approachable?
Yes but lately I haven't had much evidence to prove that fact.
2.) Out of the two, would you rather be able to predict things before they happened or be able to read minds whenever you wanted to? Why?
Predict. I tend to attempt to anticipate what's going to happen so I can prepare myself. And I have strong premonitions and clairvoyancy at times. Prediction is akin to that.
3.) Have you ever kissed, fooled around or slept with an ex significant other AFTER you were already broken up?
You been stalking me lately? The answer is yes. And I never regretted any of the times it happened. Lesson learned.
4.) Do you believe dreams are your imagination running wild as you sleep, your subconscious showing you what's really on your mind or something else entirely?
Have you MET me? All three. Could be something I ate, something said that I stored subconsciously, something I'm afraid of that manifested itself in my dreamworld, something I needed to see in another way, a warning, any combination of things. I'm Joseph the dreamer.
5.) How often do you use cuss words? Does your use of cuss words vary on your moods or situations?
Less often recently. And I've substituted letters and sounds for the cusses. Little ears and mixed company. Depends on who I'm talking to and what I'm talking about. Some words are ineffective synonyms. Ish is stronger than stuff. You get on my effin' nerves, etc.
6.) Do you ever purposely lead people on so you can get what you want?
No. If I'm doing anything that resembles "leading you on", we are both going to get what we want. I don't have time for the games. You lead, I follow.
7.) When was the last time you did something you told yourself you wouldn't do? What was it?
Earlier today. It was harmless on my end. But he may have read more into it. Just conversation. No more, no less.
8.) If you could meet one musician who is no longer alive, who would it be?
Luther.
TMI Tuesday - The 7 Virtues
These questions are not as easy as I anticipated. But very thought provoking and insightful. I'm interested in what yall have to say so. You can do it too! lol TMI Tuesday #155
1. Prudence: When do you feel it is most important to exercise prudence? When is it acceptable to throw practicality out the window?
When lack of prudence will bring about heightened scrutiny, judgment, shame, embarrassment, etc. Basically, when your decisions screw you and those around you. I'm not going to be the reason why my daughter can't be president, because of something floating on the internet 10 years before she was born. Prudence is simply caring about what happens before it happens.
2. Justice: Is a sense of justice really a virtue, or is only a tool that allows us to pass judgment on others without feeling guilty? What do you feel is the greatest injustice facing the world today?
Depends on the swing of the pendulum. There are instances where we can exact justice (where there is clear, almost universal agreement of wrongdoing). But ultimately we all have to pass that way at some point and we should remember that when we raise that gavel to sentence another for something we deem improper, immoral, orunforgiveable. Someone may think the same way about how we govern ourselves. And justice is NOT revenge, retribution, etc.
3. Temperance: All things in moderation. Should we allow ourselves a few excesses? How well do you restrain yourself when faced with your deepest desires?
Yes. I allow myself a few excesses . . . thus the size of my wardrobe. Depends on whether it will be worth it in the end. Sometimes, I restrain myself well by pushing away from the table; other times, my fingers just dial numbers out of habit. . .
4. Courage/Fortitude: How well do you confront fear and uncertainty, or intimidation? Does facing the little things make you as brave as facing the big things?
I don't confront fear and uncertainty well; MUCH better than I used to but I wouldn't use the word well. I pick my battles. But I realize I'm also that type of person that won't lift my foot to take a step unless I know where that next step is or I can step back where I once was.
The little things help me to conquer the bigger ones because then I have history with overcoming and exercising fortitude. Although I may be timid and dodge the challenge at first, eventually I will get tired of running and face it head on because clearly the flight aspect didn't work.
5. Faith: Is it important to have faith? How steadfast are you in your core beliefs? Do your core beliefs equate to faith in something?
For me, it's vitally important. If I didn't have faith, I would have succumbed a long time ago. And then again. And again. And just recently. Faith is the only thing that has kept me afloat. God puts strength around me to hold on to during times of storm. That strength may come from within me or He places people of strength around me so that I can draw from their strength. Sometimes they are strong enough to pull me up and slap the mess outta me and say ENOUGH ALREADY. If I didn't have beliefs and faith, I wouldn't have been around long enough to let that happen. And faith has made me cowardly humble enough to realize I can't end what I didn't start.
My strongest core belief is: I believe who I am resides in who He is. And He is real to me. If I am to believe that I am His child, I have to believe I got some of His traits. I have my non-negotiable personal beliefs and some things fall into a more gray, situation by situation evaluation process. My personal beliefs grow stronger as I realize what I won't allow. My beliefs has allowed me to see that there is more. God in His Infinite wisdow has created a greater purpose and chose me, as wretched and unworthy as I am, to do a work in this corner of His vineyard.
6. Hope: Does having hope for the future help you deal with the present? How good are you at finding the good in the bad? What is the thing you hope for most?
I touched on that in the Faith question. Yes it does. Hoping is expecting. I expect things to be better so I will make it happen or wait for it to come my way.
I'm better at finding the good in the bad when it's not me. I'm the silver lining girl. But when it's me, I've been more intimately acquainted with the bad. I tend to screen the good through the bad. I'm working on just seeing the good.
What I hope for most is to be come the ME I'm destined to be and being okay with that. I hope to be the best wife, mother, friend, sister, teacher, lover, confidante, support, visionary, missionary . . .
7. Love/Charity: How easy is it for you to give selfless, unconditional, and voluntary loving-kindness? How easy is it for you to receive selfless, unconditional, and voluntary loving-kindness?
I give better than I get. I've been tempering that selfless and unconditional love because it was becoming self-damaging and conditional. I loved so I expected blank (conditional) and because I loved they expected blank. It's harder for me to do the latter.
It's hard for me to accept that kind of love too. Sometimes, I'm waiting for the last shoe to drop or I'm walking on eggshells because if I enjoy it too much or acknowledge it, it will disappear. I'm learning not every hug isn't attached to a hand with a dagger in it. And I'm learning that I deserve that kinda selfless, unconditional love. That's big.
1. Prudence: When do you feel it is most important to exercise prudence? When is it acceptable to throw practicality out the window?
When lack of prudence will bring about heightened scrutiny, judgment, shame, embarrassment, etc. Basically, when your decisions screw you and those around you. I'm not going to be the reason why my daughter can't be president, because of something floating on the internet 10 years before she was born. Prudence is simply caring about what happens before it happens.
2. Justice: Is a sense of justice really a virtue, or is only a tool that allows us to pass judgment on others without feeling guilty? What do you feel is the greatest injustice facing the world today?
Depends on the swing of the pendulum. There are instances where we can exact justice (where there is clear, almost universal agreement of wrongdoing). But ultimately we all have to pass that way at some point and we should remember that when we raise that gavel to sentence another for something we deem improper, immoral, orunforgiveable. Someone may think the same way about how we govern ourselves. And justice is NOT revenge, retribution, etc.
3. Temperance: All things in moderation. Should we allow ourselves a few excesses? How well do you restrain yourself when faced with your deepest desires?
Yes. I allow myself a few excesses . . . thus the size of my wardrobe. Depends on whether it will be worth it in the end. Sometimes, I restrain myself well by pushing away from the table; other times, my fingers just dial numbers out of habit. . .
4. Courage/Fortitude: How well do you confront fear and uncertainty, or intimidation? Does facing the little things make you as brave as facing the big things?
I don't confront fear and uncertainty well; MUCH better than I used to but I wouldn't use the word well. I pick my battles. But I realize I'm also that type of person that won't lift my foot to take a step unless I know where that next step is or I can step back where I once was.
The little things help me to conquer the bigger ones because then I have history with overcoming and exercising fortitude. Although I may be timid and dodge the challenge at first, eventually I will get tired of running and face it head on because clearly the flight aspect didn't work.
5. Faith: Is it important to have faith? How steadfast are you in your core beliefs? Do your core beliefs equate to faith in something?
For me, it's vitally important. If I didn't have faith, I would have succumbed a long time ago. And then again. And again. And just recently. Faith is the only thing that has kept me afloat. God puts strength around me to hold on to during times of storm. That strength may come from within me or He places people of strength around me so that I can draw from their strength. Sometimes they are strong enough to pull me up and slap the mess outta me and say ENOUGH ALREADY. If I didn't have beliefs and faith, I wouldn't have been around long enough to let that happen. And faith has made me cowardly humble enough to realize I can't end what I didn't start.
My strongest core belief is: I believe who I am resides in who He is. And He is real to me. If I am to believe that I am His child, I have to believe I got some of His traits. I have my non-negotiable personal beliefs and some things fall into a more gray, situation by situation evaluation process. My personal beliefs grow stronger as I realize what I won't allow. My beliefs has allowed me to see that there is more. God in His Infinite wisdow has created a greater purpose and chose me, as wretched and unworthy as I am, to do a work in this corner of His vineyard.
6. Hope: Does having hope for the future help you deal with the present? How good are you at finding the good in the bad? What is the thing you hope for most?
I touched on that in the Faith question. Yes it does. Hoping is expecting. I expect things to be better so I will make it happen or wait for it to come my way.
I'm better at finding the good in the bad when it's not me. I'm the silver lining girl. But when it's me, I've been more intimately acquainted with the bad. I tend to screen the good through the bad. I'm working on just seeing the good.
What I hope for most is to be come the ME I'm destined to be and being okay with that. I hope to be the best wife, mother, friend, sister, teacher, lover, confidante, support, visionary, missionary . . .
7. Love/Charity: How easy is it for you to give selfless, unconditional, and voluntary loving-kindness? How easy is it for you to receive selfless, unconditional, and voluntary loving-kindness?
I give better than I get. I've been tempering that selfless and unconditional love because it was becoming self-damaging and conditional. I loved so I expected blank (conditional) and because I loved they expected blank. It's harder for me to do the latter.
It's hard for me to accept that kind of love too. Sometimes, I'm waiting for the last shoe to drop or I'm walking on eggshells because if I enjoy it too much or acknowledge it, it will disappear. I'm learning not every hug isn't attached to a hand with a dagger in it. And I'm learning that I deserve that kinda selfless, unconditional love. That's big.
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Because It's Wednesday
Just killing time at work while I pull this report . . .
1.) Have you ever purchased an item of clothing and intentionally worn it with tags on it so that you could return it the next day?
No but I have purchased something and decided I rather have the money. Buyer's remorse.
2.) Would you rather be late to the party, or the first person to arrive? Why?
Late to the party. I have a thing about being the first person to arrive. I'll explain more later.
3.) When do you usually begin your Christmas shopping?
Christmas shopping? Ha! I don't buy a lot of gifts you can unwrap for Christmas. No need to shop for my love! lmao
4.) What three cancelled tv shows do you wish they’d bring back?
Cosby Show the Next Generation (I just wanna look at Theo as an adult man! lol), Living Single, Will & Grace
5.) What do you have in your vehicle's glove compartment?
Windex wipes, baby wipes, sticky link remover thingy, Breeze's owner's manual, dead flashlight, batteries, deodorant, feminine products, caps for my tires, screwdriver/light combo deal branded from my mother's job, and strawberry air freshener tree.
6.) Have you ever donated blood?
Absolutely. I've saved 15 lives to date. Each pint saves 5 lives.
7.) Have you ever kissed or dated someone else's significant other? What happened?
Yep. Not my favorite thing to do. Nothing. Life goes on.
8.) Have you ever mistaken one product for another while in the bathroom and didn't notice until after you used it? (EXAMPLE: Washing your hair with liquid body soap, slathering hand soap on your legs instead of lotion after a shower, et cetera)
I'm sure I have but nothing is coming to mind. ..
9.) Would you/Have you ever dated someone who had a criminal record?
I think I have. A minor arrest for something non-violent yet stupid like malicious destruction of property. It's not one of my non-negotiables but I'm not exactly LOOKING for that particular trait either.
1.) Have you ever purchased an item of clothing and intentionally worn it with tags on it so that you could return it the next day?
No but I have purchased something and decided I rather have the money. Buyer's remorse.
2.) Would you rather be late to the party, or the first person to arrive? Why?
Late to the party. I have a thing about being the first person to arrive. I'll explain more later.
3.) When do you usually begin your Christmas shopping?
Christmas shopping? Ha! I don't buy a lot of gifts you can unwrap for Christmas. No need to shop for my love! lmao
4.) What three cancelled tv shows do you wish they’d bring back?
Cosby Show the Next Generation (I just wanna look at Theo as an adult man! lol), Living Single, Will & Grace
5.) What do you have in your vehicle's glove compartment?
Windex wipes, baby wipes, sticky link remover thingy, Breeze's owner's manual, dead flashlight, batteries, deodorant, feminine products, caps for my tires, screwdriver/light combo deal branded from my mother's job, and strawberry air freshener tree.
6.) Have you ever donated blood?
Absolutely. I've saved 15 lives to date. Each pint saves 5 lives.
7.) Have you ever kissed or dated someone else's significant other? What happened?
Yep. Not my favorite thing to do. Nothing. Life goes on.
8.) Have you ever mistaken one product for another while in the bathroom and didn't notice until after you used it? (EXAMPLE: Washing your hair with liquid body soap, slathering hand soap on your legs instead of lotion after a shower, et cetera)
I'm sure I have but nothing is coming to mind. ..
9.) Would you/Have you ever dated someone who had a criminal record?
I think I have. A minor arrest for something non-violent yet stupid like malicious destruction of property. It's not one of my non-negotiables but I'm not exactly LOOKING for that particular trait either.
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
TMI Tuesday
1. What do you feel is the difference between sexy and erotic?
Presentation and audience. It's like the difference between a lady and a woman.
2. Do you believe there is one right person (i.e. soul mate) for you out there in the world, or that there can be many different potential mates that you could live blissfully with?
I believe both are true. However, I hope me and my right person find each other so we can have more than blissful cohabitation (more like fidelity and forever) rather than bliss. Bliss sounds too much like blind, fleeting, childish happiness. I want my fidelity and forever.
3. Do you need to hear "I love you" or similar words on a regular basis from your partner?
Absolutely. Words of affirmation all day every day. And I give as good as I get.
4. What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?
Hurt. Not that "you forgot to call me hurt" that hurt to the very core of my being hurt. That need a couch hurt. That I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy hurt. That's the hurt I have difficulty expressing. . . . especially to the intended person.
5. What is worse - physical, mental or cyber cheating?
None of it is pleasant or ideal or anticipated, but mental (read: emotional) cheating is the most damaging/difficult to recover from in my opinion.
Bonus (as in optional): The Kinsey scale attempts to describe a person's sexual history or episodes of their sexual activity at a given time. It uses a scale from 0, meaning exclusively heterosexual, to 6, meaning exclusively homosexual. Where are you - TODAY - on the scale?
Zero. Unlike Callie, I meant it when I say "I am a HUGE fan of penis!"
Presentation and audience. It's like the difference between a lady and a woman.
2. Do you believe there is one right person (i.e. soul mate) for you out there in the world, or that there can be many different potential mates that you could live blissfully with?
I believe both are true. However, I hope me and my right person find each other so we can have more than blissful cohabitation (more like fidelity and forever) rather than bliss. Bliss sounds too much like blind, fleeting, childish happiness. I want my fidelity and forever.
3. Do you need to hear "I love you" or similar words on a regular basis from your partner?
Absolutely. Words of affirmation all day every day. And I give as good as I get.
4. What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?
Hurt. Not that "you forgot to call me hurt" that hurt to the very core of my being hurt. That need a couch hurt. That I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy hurt. That's the hurt I have difficulty expressing. . . . especially to the intended person.
5. What is worse - physical, mental or cyber cheating?
None of it is pleasant or ideal or anticipated, but mental (read: emotional) cheating is the most damaging/difficult to recover from in my opinion.
Bonus (as in optional): The Kinsey scale attempts to describe a person's sexual history or episodes of their sexual activity at a given time. It uses a scale from 0, meaning exclusively heterosexual, to 6, meaning exclusively homosexual. Where are you - TODAY - on the scale?
Zero. Unlike Callie, I meant it when I say "I am a HUGE fan of penis!"
TMI Tuesday
1. What do you feel is the difference between sexy and erotic?
Presentation and audience. It's like the difference between a lady and a woman.
2. Do you believe there is one right person (i.e. soul mate) for you out there in the world, or that there can be many different potential mates that you could live blissfully with?
I believe both are true. However, I hope me and my right person find each other so we can have more than blissful cohabitation (more like fidelity and forever) rather than bliss. Bliss sounds too much like blind, fleeting, childish happiness. I want my fidelity and forever.
3. Do you need to hear "I love you" or similar words on a regular basis from your partner?
Absolutely. Words of affirmation all day every day. And I give as good as I get.
4. What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?
Hurt. Not that "you forgot to call me hurt" that hurt to the very core of my being hurt. That need a couch hurt. That I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy hurt. That's the hurt I have difficulty expressing. . . . especially to the intended person.
5. What is worse - physical, mental or cyber cheating?
None of it is pleasant or ideal or anticipated, but mental (read: emotional) cheating is the most damaging/difficult to recover from in my opinion.
Bonus (as in optional): The Kinsey scale attempts to describe a person's sexual history or episodes of their sexual activity at a given time. It uses a scale from 0, meaning exclusively heterosexual, to 6, meaning exclusively homosexual. Where are you - TODAY - on the scale?
Zero. Unlike Callie, I meant it when I say "I am a HUGE fan of penis!"
Presentation and audience. It's like the difference between a lady and a woman.
2. Do you believe there is one right person (i.e. soul mate) for you out there in the world, or that there can be many different potential mates that you could live blissfully with?
I believe both are true. However, I hope me and my right person find each other so we can have more than blissful cohabitation (more like fidelity and forever) rather than bliss. Bliss sounds too much like blind, fleeting, childish happiness. I want my fidelity and forever.
3. Do you need to hear "I love you" or similar words on a regular basis from your partner?
Absolutely. Words of affirmation all day every day. And I give as good as I get.
4. What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?
Hurt. Not that "you forgot to call me hurt" that hurt to the very core of my being hurt. That need a couch hurt. That I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy hurt. That's the hurt I have difficulty expressing. . . . especially to the intended person.
5. What is worse - physical, mental or cyber cheating?
None of it is pleasant or ideal or anticipated, but mental (read: emotional) cheating is the most damaging/difficult to recover from in my opinion.
Bonus (as in optional): The Kinsey scale attempts to describe a person's sexual history or episodes of their sexual activity at a given time. It uses a scale from 0, meaning exclusively heterosexual, to 6, meaning exclusively homosexual. Where are you - TODAY - on the scale?
Zero. Unlike Callie, I meant it when I say "I am a HUGE fan of penis!"
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
TMI Tuesday
Two words: parallel lives
1. Describe the perfect date for YOURSELF... what you would enjoy most.
I had this conversation just a few minutes ago. Since I haven't had an "adult date", I'm open to almost anything. Whatever the date entails, I would want good, free-flowing conversation, laughter, good food and quality time doing a shared activity. I'm a simple gal.
2. Do you lean more toward being submissive or dominant?
I teeter between the two. I have no problem being submissive when we have a common goal. And then I might be dominant, just to make sure I get what I want.
3. What do you usually wear to bed?
Tee and panties/boy shorts/boxers
4. Have you ever seen a counselor?
Not recently
5. Lights on or off?
No matter. I'm not focusing on the lights.
Bonus: Have you or a partner ever faked an orgasm?
Quite difficult for a man to do that. I haven't faked. I'd rather stop or take over.
1. Describe the perfect date for YOURSELF... what you would enjoy most.
I had this conversation just a few minutes ago. Since I haven't had an "adult date", I'm open to almost anything. Whatever the date entails, I would want good, free-flowing conversation, laughter, good food and quality time doing a shared activity. I'm a simple gal.
2. Do you lean more toward being submissive or dominant?
I teeter between the two. I have no problem being submissive when we have a common goal. And then I might be dominant, just to make sure I get what I want.
3. What do you usually wear to bed?
Tee and panties/boy shorts/boxers
4. Have you ever seen a counselor?
Not recently
5. Lights on or off?
No matter. I'm not focusing on the lights.
Bonus: Have you or a partner ever faked an orgasm?
Quite difficult for a man to do that. I haven't faked. I'd rather stop or take over.
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
TMI Tuesday
Because it's Tuesday of course! And I need to something to do while I run this report. . . Yes, I'm TMIing at work.
TMI Tuesday #150
1. When was the last time someone hit on you? What went down?
Sunday. Not a damn thing. He is married and just joking (well I'm not taking him seriously) and she was a lesbian (not even an option.)
2. If you were single and could be with any one person, who would it be (thinking singer/actor or someone famous here, but whatever)?
I am single and the "whatever" person just needs to clear his damn calendar! (am I angry? lol) But I digress. Will Smith but Jada must stay home. Morris Chestnut and Jaime Foxx (individually) but only so I can lay my head on their chest after. I have a thing for broad chests.
3. Have you ever had done anything sexual in your office or your place of employment?
Not while I was employed there and that's ALL I'mma say about that!
4. Do you apologize when you make a mistake? How do you react when someone calls you out?
Usually. I've been a big girl about that lately. If I'm called out and it's reasonable, I'll put up a bit of a defensive/explanation, but I end up apologizing, trying to get the other person to see my point and making up someway. I'm not above being wrong. Just doesn't happen that often *smirk*
5. Top or bottom? Bonus (as in optional):
If the bottom is the bottom I think you mean, not thanks. If the bottom is the bottom I'm thinking, depends on my mood. Rest assured I'd top at some course of the event.
Bonus: How old were you when you first had a willing sexual experience?
17. A few months shy of 18. I made my decision. Took a week to actually act on it. And shocked the mess outta him. LMAO good times.
TMI Tuesday #150
1. When was the last time someone hit on you? What went down?
Sunday. Not a damn thing. He is married and just joking (well I'm not taking him seriously) and she was a lesbian (not even an option.)
2. If you were single and could be with any one person, who would it be (thinking singer/actor or someone famous here, but whatever)?
I am single and the "whatever" person just needs to clear his damn calendar! (am I angry? lol) But I digress. Will Smith but Jada must stay home. Morris Chestnut and Jaime Foxx (individually) but only so I can lay my head on their chest after. I have a thing for broad chests.
3. Have you ever had done anything sexual in your office or your place of employment?
Not while I was employed there and that's ALL I'mma say about that!
4. Do you apologize when you make a mistake? How do you react when someone calls you out?
Usually. I've been a big girl about that lately. If I'm called out and it's reasonable, I'll put up a bit of a defensive/explanation, but I end up apologizing, trying to get the other person to see my point and making up someway. I'm not above being wrong. Just doesn't happen that often *smirk*
5. Top or bottom? Bonus (as in optional):
If the bottom is the bottom I think you mean, not thanks. If the bottom is the bottom I'm thinking, depends on my mood. Rest assured I'd top at some course of the event.
Bonus: How old were you when you first had a willing sexual experience?
17. A few months shy of 18. I made my decision. Took a week to actually act on it. And shocked the mess outta him. LMAO good times.
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Wednesday Weirdness
1. How often do you talk to your siblings?
The bio, whenever he wants to ask for a ride or borrow 37 cents. The sisters: one everyday all day, the others often enough.
2. How well do you deal when given an ultimatum?
Dunno. Don't remember being given one. But if it's grounded in reality, I'll weigh it.
3. Have you ever dated someone or had a lover who had an emotional or mental disorder?
Lol. Undiagnosed bipolar, depression, something was up. Wish him the best, but that's her issue now.
4. How do you feel about crossdressing?
I can wear HIS tie, but he CANNOT wear my wrap dress no matter how flattering the cut may be.
5. Have you ever lied about the number of sexual partners you have had to someone? Why?
No. Never had to. That's one thing I believe in full disclosure about. You don't get to play with MY health. Straight talk makes for straight understanding.
6. Does your significant other have the same political and religious views that you do? How often do you discuss politics and religion with them?
My significant buddies tend to fall within the range. They make take a slight left when I go straight but we respect each other's views.
7. What sport, if any, do you find to be most boring?
Golf. Never watched it but it just sounds boring and stupid.
8. Have you ever honestly peed in the pool?
Yes.
The bio, whenever he wants to ask for a ride or borrow 37 cents. The sisters: one everyday all day, the others often enough.
2. How well do you deal when given an ultimatum?
Dunno. Don't remember being given one. But if it's grounded in reality, I'll weigh it.
3. Have you ever dated someone or had a lover who had an emotional or mental disorder?
Lol. Undiagnosed bipolar, depression, something was up. Wish him the best, but that's her issue now.
4. How do you feel about crossdressing?
I can wear HIS tie, but he CANNOT wear my wrap dress no matter how flattering the cut may be.
5. Have you ever lied about the number of sexual partners you have had to someone? Why?
No. Never had to. That's one thing I believe in full disclosure about. You don't get to play with MY health. Straight talk makes for straight understanding.
6. Does your significant other have the same political and religious views that you do? How often do you discuss politics and religion with them?
My significant buddies tend to fall within the range. They make take a slight left when I go straight but we respect each other's views.
7. What sport, if any, do you find to be most boring?
Golf. Never watched it but it just sounds boring and stupid.
8. Have you ever honestly peed in the pool?
Yes.
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
TMI Tuesday
You find a fairy. With a wave of their wand they can change anything for you.
What is the one thing you would change about your body?
The belly. Either put a baby in it or get it off of me! lol
What is the one personality trait you would change?
My assertiveness. But I'm working on that.
What is the one thing about your job you would change?
Increase the salary, which would include expensing my parking.
What is the one thing about your home you would change?
I'd have my own beautifully decorated something to call my own where I would feel safe and secure and build my family home or use as rental income when me and the hubby trade up our family home.
What is the one thing about your Significant Other you would change?
His existence. I'd BRING him into manifested existence in my life. lol
Who is the one person you would poof out of your life and why?
He's gone. Lesson learned.
Who is the one person you would poof back in and why?
My buddy. To tell him how much I appreciated him holding me down back in the day. He shared my heavy with me. Too bad his wife thinks I'm a threat. Sweetheart, I ASSURE you I'm not. lol
What is the one thing you would change about your body?
The belly. Either put a baby in it or get it off of me! lol
What is the one personality trait you would change?
My assertiveness. But I'm working on that.
What is the one thing about your job you would change?
Increase the salary, which would include expensing my parking.
What is the one thing about your home you would change?
I'd have my own beautifully decorated something to call my own where I would feel safe and secure and build my family home or use as rental income when me and the hubby trade up our family home.
What is the one thing about your Significant Other you would change?
His existence. I'd BRING him into manifested existence in my life. lol
Who is the one person you would poof out of your life and why?
He's gone. Lesson learned.
Who is the one person you would poof back in and why?
My buddy. To tell him how much I appreciated him holding me down back in the day. He shared my heavy with me. Too bad his wife thinks I'm a threat. Sweetheart, I ASSURE you I'm not. lol
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Wednesday Weirdness - Because I'm Procrastinating. . .
1. You just bought a snazzy new leather jacket for an awesome price at the local outlet shop. When you got it home you found $2000 (cash) in the jacket's inner pocket. What are you going to do?
Keep it. I bought the jacket and it's contents! Then I'd pay for my St. Lucia trip outright and put the rest in a 6 month CD to be taken out and added to the rest of my spending money!
2. If you could change or eliminate one wedding tradition, what would it be? What is your favorite wedding tradition?
I dunno how traditional it is, but the little boy that runs around ringing the bell and screaming "the bride is coming. the bride is coming." Who is he? Paul Revere? Not having that at my wedding. My favorite wedding tradition is the committed, loving, healthy marriage part.
3. If you were on Gilligan’s Island, who would you want to share your hut with? Who would you consider it torture to have to share a hut with?
Seeing how I've never really watched the show I can't really say. But I would guess my sistas because the jokes won't stop and when they do, they can take they asses and sit in a tree (lol) and an available attractive man because who wants to be stranded with a bunch of estrogen carriers? lol
4. Have you ever called your current significant other by another name at any point? What happened?
I have no current. But I don't think I've called my exes by another's name to them. Maybe in conversation with someone else . . . So nothing happened.
5. If you were going to be famous under a stage name, what would you pick your stage name to be? Why? What do you want to be famous doing?
Rebecca Amanda Armstrong. I dunno why. It's been my pseudonym since 96. But I don't want to be famous. No scratch that. Fame might be okay. I don't want to be a celebrity.
6. During sex, do you ever fantasize about someone other than your partner?
Never had a reason to . . .
7. Which is worse, being in a place that is too loud, or too quiet?
Too quiet. I can usually tune out noise and loudness. Hard to tune out quiet and silence.
Keep it. I bought the jacket and it's contents! Then I'd pay for my St. Lucia trip outright and put the rest in a 6 month CD to be taken out and added to the rest of my spending money!
2. If you could change or eliminate one wedding tradition, what would it be? What is your favorite wedding tradition?
I dunno how traditional it is, but the little boy that runs around ringing the bell and screaming "the bride is coming. the bride is coming." Who is he? Paul Revere? Not having that at my wedding. My favorite wedding tradition is the committed, loving, healthy marriage part.
3. If you were on Gilligan’s Island, who would you want to share your hut with? Who would you consider it torture to have to share a hut with?
Seeing how I've never really watched the show I can't really say. But I would guess my sistas because the jokes won't stop and when they do, they can take they asses and sit in a tree (lol) and an available attractive man because who wants to be stranded with a bunch of estrogen carriers? lol
4. Have you ever called your current significant other by another name at any point? What happened?
I have no current. But I don't think I've called my exes by another's name to them. Maybe in conversation with someone else . . . So nothing happened.
5. If you were going to be famous under a stage name, what would you pick your stage name to be? Why? What do you want to be famous doing?
Rebecca Amanda Armstrong. I dunno why. It's been my pseudonym since 96. But I don't want to be famous. No scratch that. Fame might be okay. I don't want to be a celebrity.
6. During sex, do you ever fantasize about someone other than your partner?
Never had a reason to . . .
7. Which is worse, being in a place that is too loud, or too quiet?
Too quiet. I can usually tune out noise and loudness. Hard to tune out quiet and silence.
Wednesday, August 13, 2008
Wednesday Weirdness - Take 2
Because it's Wednesday night and I'm bored.
1. Would you rather be 3 inches taller, or 3 inches shorter than you already are?
3 inches taller would make me 5'11 flat footed and 6'2 in heels. I already have a hard time finding dudes that are tall enough. Shorter definitely shorter.
2. What are 3 words that could never be used to describe you?
hateful. ostentatious/look at me. unfeeling/apathetic.
3. Have you ever eaten something at the grocery store while you were shopping, prior to buying it? Did you pay for it when you got to the check out line?
Yep. Soda. I was thirsty.
4. If you could have any 3 materialistic things in this world without paying a single cent for any of them, what would they be and why?
an iPod touch with the largest capacity (because I need more space), my 09/10 navy Camry with gray or beige interior (bc Toyotas are great on gas), a beautifully decorated 4 bedroom house with an in-ground pool on LI?
5. Have you ever fallen asleep or nodded off during sex before?
Yes. I put myself to sleep.
6. What are 3 jobs you’d leave your current job for? If you don't have a current job, just list 3 jobs you would like to have.
motherhood, teaching, my own biz
7. Do you or have you ever answered the phone during sex?
No, but I encouraged him to answer a few times. Funny, funny mess.
1. Would you rather be 3 inches taller, or 3 inches shorter than you already are?
3 inches taller would make me 5'11 flat footed and 6'2 in heels. I already have a hard time finding dudes that are tall enough. Shorter definitely shorter.
2. What are 3 words that could never be used to describe you?
hateful. ostentatious/look at me. unfeeling/apathetic.
3. Have you ever eaten something at the grocery store while you were shopping, prior to buying it? Did you pay for it when you got to the check out line?
Yep. Soda. I was thirsty.
4. If you could have any 3 materialistic things in this world without paying a single cent for any of them, what would they be and why?
an iPod touch with the largest capacity (because I need more space), my 09/10 navy Camry with gray or beige interior (bc Toyotas are great on gas), a beautifully decorated 4 bedroom house with an in-ground pool on LI?
5. Have you ever fallen asleep or nodded off during sex before?
Yes. I put myself to sleep.
6. What are 3 jobs you’d leave your current job for? If you don't have a current job, just list 3 jobs you would like to have.
motherhood, teaching, my own biz
7. Do you or have you ever answered the phone during sex?
No, but I encouraged him to answer a few times. Funny, funny mess.
Wednesday Weirdness - The Ex Files
Wednesday Weirdness, The Ex Files
1. When your relationships end, are you the instigator of the breakup or the recipient?
The last one I was the instigator. Took a while but I did it.
2. Do you save things from your ex, or get rid of them? If you save them, how? If you trash them, how?
I still have the letters I wrote him. A couple of tee shirts I sleep in. A picture of him as a child and a picture for the first night we met. I wish I kept my first ex's HS jersey - but it meant so much to him, I gave it back.
3. Describe your favorite ex?
Lol this sounds like such an oxymoron to me. But my favorite ex is hands down my first bf. He is/was my best friend (I always get confused as to what tense to use. We don't speak any more but that doesn't change the friendship and love we once shared). We could talk about anything. We encouraged each other and sincerely wanted the best for each other even if we couldn't be that best. We supported each other. The quality time was outstanding.
4. Do you consider a friend's ex off limits?
As a rule yes. But if anything should develop always ask your friend first.
5. Have you ever had sex with an ex? Why?
Simply put, something to do, habit, rehashing old memories, reconnecting.
6. If you had a choice between spending the rest of your life with your worst ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend, or your HS Nemesis, who would you choose?
I didn't have a high school nemesis so that choice is clear. My worst ex isn't a bad person altogether, he just sucked the big one as a relationship partner.
7. Would you ever create a YouTube video or a website celebrating your exes' flaws?
No. He already did that. He's the jack of all trades, master of none. He is indecisive and unfocused. He's great at whatever he's focused on but his attention gets drawn in too many directions. But you didn't ask all that did you?
1. When your relationships end, are you the instigator of the breakup or the recipient?
The last one I was the instigator. Took a while but I did it.
2. Do you save things from your ex, or get rid of them? If you save them, how? If you trash them, how?
I still have the letters I wrote him. A couple of tee shirts I sleep in. A picture of him as a child and a picture for the first night we met. I wish I kept my first ex's HS jersey - but it meant so much to him, I gave it back.
3. Describe your favorite ex?
Lol this sounds like such an oxymoron to me. But my favorite ex is hands down my first bf. He is/was my best friend (I always get confused as to what tense to use. We don't speak any more but that doesn't change the friendship and love we once shared). We could talk about anything. We encouraged each other and sincerely wanted the best for each other even if we couldn't be that best. We supported each other. The quality time was outstanding.
4. Do you consider a friend's ex off limits?
As a rule yes. But if anything should develop always ask your friend first.
5. Have you ever had sex with an ex? Why?
Simply put, something to do, habit, rehashing old memories, reconnecting.
6. If you had a choice between spending the rest of your life with your worst ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend, or your HS Nemesis, who would you choose?
I didn't have a high school nemesis so that choice is clear. My worst ex isn't a bad person altogether, he just sucked the big one as a relationship partner.
7. Would you ever create a YouTube video or a website celebrating your exes' flaws?
No. He already did that. He's the jack of all trades, master of none. He is indecisive and unfocused. He's great at whatever he's focused on but his attention gets drawn in too many directions. But you didn't ask all that did you?
Monday, July 28, 2008
TMI Tuesday
This is a tribute to the late great George Carlin.
1. What is your language pet peeve? (example 'hot water heater', why would you heat hot water) Conversate is one of my favorite language pet peeves. Makes me cringe. And the saying on tomorrow. Or the party was on yesterday. Why can't we just say the day?
2. What is your favorite word? Both dirty and clean?
Onomatopoeia (because I knew what an onomatopoeia was and how to spell in, I got to write it on the board in my 7th grade English class. RIP Mr. Morris). My dirty word, MF. It's a powerful word, I only pull out if necessary. And you have to hit the right stress for the right emphasis.
3. What is the one word you cannot spell?
It's not that I can't spell it, I type it wrong about 90% of the time. I type sent when I mean send.
4. What is the one word you always pronounce wrong?
Statistics. I stumble over the syllables. Oh, and syllabification. I never said that word in grammar class. Got an A though!
5. If you could erase one popular catchphrase from the English language, what would it be?
I'm making moves. Or I gotta make moves. Oh shut up already. You ain't moved nothing (see below).
Bonus (as in optional): The late, and very hot Michael Hutchence (INXS) once sang, "Words are weapons, sharper than knives". What is the most hurtful thing you have ever said to anyone? Was it deliberate or accidental? What was the most hurtful thing ever said to you? Do you think it was deliberate or accidental?
I told him he don't deserve ish because he was an ain't ish nigga and insulted the size of his endowment. It was quick-fired but deliberate. Both statements were true but the latter was just for effect. His endowment was alright with me!
The most hurtful thing said to me wasn't a particular phrase. It was just the questions that sounded like they doubted the veracity (truth) of what happened to me. Just because I didn't fall apart on cue or didn't respond like the scripted Benson and Stabler.
1. What is your language pet peeve? (example 'hot water heater', why would you heat hot water) Conversate is one of my favorite language pet peeves. Makes me cringe. And the saying on tomorrow. Or the party was on yesterday. Why can't we just say the day?
2. What is your favorite word? Both dirty and clean?
Onomatopoeia (because I knew what an onomatopoeia was and how to spell in, I got to write it on the board in my 7th grade English class. RIP Mr. Morris). My dirty word, MF. It's a powerful word, I only pull out if necessary. And you have to hit the right stress for the right emphasis.
3. What is the one word you cannot spell?
It's not that I can't spell it, I type it wrong about 90% of the time. I type sent when I mean send.
4. What is the one word you always pronounce wrong?
Statistics. I stumble over the syllables. Oh, and syllabification. I never said that word in grammar class. Got an A though!
5. If you could erase one popular catchphrase from the English language, what would it be?
I'm making moves. Or I gotta make moves. Oh shut up already. You ain't moved nothing (see below).
Bonus (as in optional): The late, and very hot Michael Hutchence (INXS) once sang, "Words are weapons, sharper than knives". What is the most hurtful thing you have ever said to anyone? Was it deliberate or accidental? What was the most hurtful thing ever said to you? Do you think it was deliberate or accidental?
I told him he don't deserve ish because he was an ain't ish nigga and insulted the size of his endowment. It was quick-fired but deliberate. Both statements were true but the latter was just for effect. His endowment was alright with me!
The most hurtful thing said to me wasn't a particular phrase. It was just the questions that sounded like they doubted the veracity (truth) of what happened to me. Just because I didn't fall apart on cue or didn't respond like the scripted Benson and Stabler.
Thursday, July 17, 2008
48 Hours Later
Something I got from TMI Tuesday.
1. What were you known as in HS (Jock, Princess, Geek)?The girl who cut half of junior/senior year bc she didn't like Ms. Johnson
2. What were you really? The girl who cut half of junior/senior year bc I had too much on my mind.
3. If you could go back and tell your 16 year old self one thing, what would it be?
It's okay to blend your school, church and block friends. Oh and he's wack.
4. If you could erase one moment from your school days what would it be? I would erase the moment I walked him to his car.
5. Who did you not date (or more) that you wish you did? I only had eyes for BW. Ah teenage love.
Bonus (as in optional): If you went to prom, describe your outfit.
The split split higher getting in the limo and SW kept feeling up my thigh in a feeble attempt to fix the wardrobe malfunction.
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