1.) In your opinion, what is your biggest character flaw?
i aggress rather than assert myself. i (used) to wait until i got to the boiling point before i addressed the issue which turned into an attack more than an argument (which is more civil than a quarrel).
2.) What do you think is one of the worst television shows ever created?
too many to name. i haven't watched vh1 or mtv in years. and only bet by accident lol
3.) Have you ever ended up injured after trying an interesting new sex position?
yes which is why i stretched before i tried it again lol
4.) How crucial do you think communication is between you and a regular sexual partner? Do you talk often about what works, what doesn't, things you want to try, etc or do you keep the discussions to a minimal and let the physical flow as it may?
converse before, after, during and in tandem with physical flow.
5.) Who are your favorite comedic actors/actresses?
there are a few. eddie murphy before he tried to release a singing album. will smith and jamie foxx especially when there is some partial to full on nekkidness. . . .
6.) In what way(s) do you wish your childhood was different?
i wish i was allowed to be a child.
7.) Cotton Candy; Delicious treat or disgusting mess?
treat with a gallon of water handy. mess if my hands gets sticky and dirty.
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
blah
today is one of those blah days for me. i'm not doing what i want with who i want and i lack any interest in putting on airs. for me to be so blah i sure did write a lot in response to these questions huh? lol
1. What makes a person sexy to you?
it's a combination of things. if i'm attracted to him (which extends beyond simply looks) and how he carries himself (the colloquial term being swagga) . i've seen attractive dudes lose all hope of sexiness because they are absolute bumbling jerks. and i know dudes who are stars in my inner thoughts just on swagga alone. (like ti that little short ruffian does things. and anthony hamilton who makes scruffy look good. and mos def who made me wanna do good naughty things in the back of yellow cabs ever since he was a driver in brown sugar)
2. When having the 'number of sex partners' talk with a potential significant other, would you be turned off if they had slept with more than a certain number of people? If yes, what is that number?
i was turned off because someone's number was around their age, but then i realized it only takes one to jack up your whole sexual health. i'm more concerned with sexual health than notches on the headboard. my number is damn near nonexistence in comparison to my compatriots, but that's their number and this is mine. i wouldn't change a thing.
3. Once and for all, pocketbook sized dogs and the people who carry them in pocketbooks. Cute or crazy?
crazy fad. and i'm allergic to long haired dogs apparently. i wasn't allergic to bally, but then again we always sent him out of the room. lmao i remember his head turning and raised eyebrow looking on quizzically. guess he never knew there was more besides doggy style.
4. Do you give up anything for Lent? If so, what?
i always intend to but i never quite follow through for the whole 40 days.
5. If you live with someone, what is the one thing you will never let them see you do?
and what if the person i live with reads this, then he'd know. silly rabbit!
1. What makes a person sexy to you?
it's a combination of things. if i'm attracted to him (which extends beyond simply looks) and how he carries himself (the colloquial term being swagga) . i've seen attractive dudes lose all hope of sexiness because they are absolute bumbling jerks. and i know dudes who are stars in my inner thoughts just on swagga alone. (like ti that little short ruffian does things. and anthony hamilton who makes scruffy look good. and mos def who made me wanna do good naughty things in the back of yellow cabs ever since he was a driver in brown sugar)
2. When having the 'number of sex partners' talk with a potential significant other, would you be turned off if they had slept with more than a certain number of people? If yes, what is that number?
i was turned off because someone's number was around their age, but then i realized it only takes one to jack up your whole sexual health. i'm more concerned with sexual health than notches on the headboard. my number is damn near nonexistence in comparison to my compatriots, but that's their number and this is mine. i wouldn't change a thing.
3. Once and for all, pocketbook sized dogs and the people who carry them in pocketbooks. Cute or crazy?
crazy fad. and i'm allergic to long haired dogs apparently. i wasn't allergic to bally, but then again we always sent him out of the room. lmao i remember his head turning and raised eyebrow looking on quizzically. guess he never knew there was more besides doggy style.
4. Do you give up anything for Lent? If so, what?
i always intend to but i never quite follow through for the whole 40 days.
5. If you live with someone, what is the one thing you will never let them see you do?
and what if the person i live with reads this, then he'd know. silly rabbit!
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
wednesday
1. What is one thing one of your closest friends does that drives you batshit crazy?
she thinks because something interests/challenges her that that is supposed to interest/challenge me. we're close, but not identical sista.
2. When buying a new sex toy, what are the features you look for that you absolutely have to have?
waterproof and easy to clean.
3. If you woke up the opposite gender for one day, what would be the biggest downside to that for you?
i'd prolly spend time tightening up "the area" and playing with my new toy, so i'd prolly take the day off to enjoy as much of the full gamut of being a dude.
4. Do you use curse words in front of children?
i try not to but my nephew will say something like "don't say ass ladies. ass is not a nice word, so don't say ass okay? or fuck either."
5. If you were zapped with a laser and turned into an animated character, what Disney movie would you hate to play a part in?
binderella or bambi
6. How would you react to your partner answering a phone call or text message during foreplay or intercourse?
if we are already in motion, i'd raise my eyebrow like you better not unless someone is actively on fire. but if we were in cool down mode, i'd take that as an invitation to mess with him. i've done it before, a few times. his cousin took the hint, but he held it together to talk to his mother. i didn't stop though. ain't i a stinka?
7. What are three things you want to try doing but haven't yet? (They can be sexual or non-sexual, doesn't matter.)
vacationing with a guy i'm seeing, jetskiing, and giving birth
she thinks because something interests/challenges her that that is supposed to interest/challenge me. we're close, but not identical sista.
2. When buying a new sex toy, what are the features you look for that you absolutely have to have?
waterproof and easy to clean.
3. If you woke up the opposite gender for one day, what would be the biggest downside to that for you?
i'd prolly spend time tightening up "the area" and playing with my new toy, so i'd prolly take the day off to enjoy as much of the full gamut of being a dude.
4. Do you use curse words in front of children?
i try not to but my nephew will say something like "don't say ass ladies. ass is not a nice word, so don't say ass okay? or fuck either."
5. If you were zapped with a laser and turned into an animated character, what Disney movie would you hate to play a part in?
binderella or bambi
6. How would you react to your partner answering a phone call or text message during foreplay or intercourse?
if we are already in motion, i'd raise my eyebrow like you better not unless someone is actively on fire. but if we were in cool down mode, i'd take that as an invitation to mess with him. i've done it before, a few times. his cousin took the hint, but he held it together to talk to his mother. i didn't stop though. ain't i a stinka?
7. What are three things you want to try doing but haven't yet? (They can be sexual or non-sexual, doesn't matter.)
vacationing with a guy i'm seeing, jetskiing, and giving birth
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
untitled
1. Is there a sexual act/position/practice that you were sure in advance you would hate (or never try) and then discovered to your surprise you loved?
yes, the art of fellating.
2. Is there a sexual act/position/practice that proved a lot less interesting in practice than you thought it would be beforehand?
yes, canine coitus. it breaks the communication of eye contact. but i do enjoy being guided by my waist.
3. How do you let your significant other know you're in the mood? How do you let a new person in your life know?
i'm (was) almost always in the mood around the last s/o. the new dude ain't ready to show and prove. he better hope i'm still ready when he's ready or all of his curiosity will be all for nought.
4. How does your significant other let you know he/she is in the mood?
the last s/o would just blink at me. he had this goofy grin that would spread across his face and passed his waistband. didn't/doesn't take much with us.
5. Is there one that got away - a sexual opportunity you didn't realise was one at the time, or weren't ready for and regret missing ever since?
yes, the metal was cold but we coulda warmed it up. i shoulda stuck condoms AND baby wipes in my wristlet.
yes, the art of fellating.
2. Is there a sexual act/position/practice that proved a lot less interesting in practice than you thought it would be beforehand?
yes, canine coitus. it breaks the communication of eye contact. but i do enjoy being guided by my waist.
3. How do you let your significant other know you're in the mood? How do you let a new person in your life know?
i'm (was) almost always in the mood around the last s/o. the new dude ain't ready to show and prove. he better hope i'm still ready when he's ready or all of his curiosity will be all for nought.
4. How does your significant other let you know he/she is in the mood?
the last s/o would just blink at me. he had this goofy grin that would spread across his face and passed his waistband. didn't/doesn't take much with us.
5. Is there one that got away - a sexual opportunity you didn't realise was one at the time, or weren't ready for and regret missing ever since?
yes, the metal was cold but we coulda warmed it up. i shoulda stuck condoms AND baby wipes in my wristlet.
Monday, March 2, 2009
unsucked
. . . i wonder if i will cross post this one
this dude is selfish. this dude thinks i'm supposed to break out the bells and whistles to suit his fancy. this dude thinks i'm supposed to perform as prepayment for his performance. dude, you have a job to do that had nothing to do with what i choose to do or not do. dude, my skills aren't contingent upon yours. this dude has met the right one at the wrong time. this dude is two people.
. . . you're so vain. you prolly think this post is about you. you're so vain. . .
i like you but not as much as you like you.
selfish people leach.
leaches dry things up.
things like the alleged attraction. like the alleged curiousity. like the elicit (and illicit) compliments said only because dude thinks that will disarm me. wrong! the set-up is wrong. the initiation is wrong. the motive is wrong. the follow through is wrong. wrong except when it's right.the sad part is dude had redeeming qualities . . . buried under all the bull he peddles because he thinks that's alluring. i'm a bit of a behaviorist. i note how you're saying what you're saying. just the same, i respond in kind. but leaching ain't my thang.
i'm a sweetheart and i won't let you suck that outta me.
Monday, February 23, 2009
the one where i want him . . . .
. . . but we have impeccably horrible timing. i dunno if he even reads these anymore. if he does, make it known that he's ready by reciprocating photogenically . . . . (freudian. i meant to say photographically lol)
(eta after answering the questions: these questions are a bit weaker that the usual TMI tuesday. c'mon people. give me a reason to divulge and overshare!!!)
1. What do find is the most exciting part of a new sexual encounter?
the buildup, the expectation, the learning, the fumbling, and the expectation of doing it again . . . in 30 minutes. lol
2. Do you have "a most exciting part of a sexual encounter" with a usual partner?
yea. we used to try to 'one up' each other. he'd talk smack and i'd shut him up or he'd ask me questions at moments when i couldn't formulate a sentence if you paid me. a good time was had by all!
3. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you just met?
as open as the situation requires. i'm usually good about reading people's need to know level. although i have felt the need to tell something that explains the hows and whys of me but we haven't exactly crossed that bridge yet. he might recoil.
4. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you work with?
again, need to know basis. i play certain things close to the vest.
5. How open and honest are you about your life with a casual acquaintance who lives in your neighborhood (or the parent a your child's friend or...)?
damnit how many times are we gonna rephrase the same question. same rules apply.
i only TMI those i know and oh anyone with internet access and time to kill reading blogs lol
Bonus (as in optional): Define a "normal" as in "normal relationship" or "normal sex life".
normal is so subjective and relative. my normal relationship needs to be redefined. my normal sex life needs to be more frequent.
(eta after answering the questions: these questions are a bit weaker that the usual TMI tuesday. c'mon people. give me a reason to divulge and overshare!!!)
1. What do find is the most exciting part of a new sexual encounter?
the buildup, the expectation, the learning, the fumbling, and the expectation of doing it again . . . in 30 minutes. lol
2. Do you have "a most exciting part of a sexual encounter" with a usual partner?
yea. we used to try to 'one up' each other. he'd talk smack and i'd shut him up or he'd ask me questions at moments when i couldn't formulate a sentence if you paid me. a good time was had by all!
3. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you just met?
as open as the situation requires. i'm usually good about reading people's need to know level. although i have felt the need to tell something that explains the hows and whys of me but we haven't exactly crossed that bridge yet. he might recoil.
4. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you work with?
again, need to know basis. i play certain things close to the vest.
5. How open and honest are you about your life with a casual acquaintance who lives in your neighborhood (or the parent a your child's friend or...)?
damnit how many times are we gonna rephrase the same question. same rules apply.
i only TMI those i know and oh anyone with internet access and time to kill reading blogs lol
Bonus (as in optional): Define a "normal" as in "normal relationship" or "normal sex life".
normal is so subjective and relative. my normal relationship needs to be redefined. my normal sex life needs to be more frequent.
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
before my bath . . .
i had a long day that deserves a warm, relaxing bubble bath.
1. What is the most exciting part of a sexual encounter for you?
the shared experience, the communicating with touches and glances and well placed grabs.
2. What is your favorite way to relax after sex?
spooning or laying my head on his chest.
3. Do you find sex with someone you have emotional attachment with to be better than casual fucking with someone you don't have emotional attachment with?
emotional of course. i've only done the casual thing (meaning no desire for a repeat performance) once. not my thing.
4. What was the last really horrible movie you watched? (At home, theater, etc)
over her dead body with eva longoria. it was on while i was sleeping. rather it put me to sleep.
5. What are 3 things someone could do or say during foreplay that would kill the mood for you?
call me by someone else's name, take too long (there is such a thing as overkill) and be selfish
6. Where do you think the best place to buy sexy lingerie is? Why?
my lingerie includes tee shirts ive collected, hipster panties and just plain nekkidness (no preamble needed). so i dont know a real answer
7. Do you think how a person dances gives you a glimpse to how they perform in bed?
not as a rule because you probably won't see me do much more than a 2step when i'm out. i assure you there's a whole helluva lot more than a 2step going on in my bedroom.
8. When was the last time you got served breakfast in bed?
about a month ago?
1. What is the most exciting part of a sexual encounter for you?
the shared experience, the communicating with touches and glances and well placed grabs.
2. What is your favorite way to relax after sex?
spooning or laying my head on his chest.
3. Do you find sex with someone you have emotional attachment with to be better than casual fucking with someone you don't have emotional attachment with?
emotional of course. i've only done the casual thing (meaning no desire for a repeat performance) once. not my thing.
4. What was the last really horrible movie you watched? (At home, theater, etc)
over her dead body with eva longoria. it was on while i was sleeping. rather it put me to sleep.
5. What are 3 things someone could do or say during foreplay that would kill the mood for you?
call me by someone else's name, take too long (there is such a thing as overkill) and be selfish
6. Where do you think the best place to buy sexy lingerie is? Why?
my lingerie includes tee shirts ive collected, hipster panties and just plain nekkidness (no preamble needed). so i dont know a real answer
7. Do you think how a person dances gives you a glimpse to how they perform in bed?
not as a rule because you probably won't see me do much more than a 2step when i'm out. i assure you there's a whole helluva lot more than a 2step going on in my bedroom.
8. When was the last time you got served breakfast in bed?
about a month ago?
Monday, February 16, 2009
the big legendaries
i spent a good chunk of valentine's day throbbing while "arguing" with someone about how much we wanted each other and surrounded by a bunch of people touching and reaching in their pant pockets and bra cups for dirty treasures. and then i went out on a limb with an unrequited text . . . and mms to be more precise.
none of which was on my who-to-do list for this valentine's weekend. i wanted to touch (at some address that wasn't my own) and be touched (at somebody's spa). but one of the best moments of my 3 day weekend was watching shaq give me a new nickname. i shall call them "the big legendaries". the them will take on different meaning and intrigue as i see fit.
i didn't know who i missed more this weekend: the ex, the first or the missed opportunity. . . .
would you believe i waited up for these questions? hi, i'm private and i have a problem. . . .
1. What is your favorite charity? Do you you give your time or just money to that charity?
my church. i give both.
2. Describe your bed. What side do you sleep on?
queen where ive gotta many bruises. i sleep on the side closest to the door (right) unless i have an overnight guest.
3. How important is a partner's kissing ability?
important enough to make a difference. i don't think it would work out well if we couldn't get the kissing worked out. i'm a kissy face. and it's a given that he should kiss other places well also.
4. Have you ever "taken advantage" of a person under the influence of alcohol? Have you ever been "taken advantage" of while under the influence of alcohol?
i don't drink in excess enough to be taken advantage of. although the one time he brought smirnoff ices (yes i'm kinda a light weight - but i did drink like 3), i decided to investigate the whoopla about this head thing. ive never heard a complaint then or since.
5. Ever tried to replay the famous scene from From Here to Eternity? How was it?
not at a beach. but i have pinned and been pinned against walls, beds, cars, speakers, etc. while liplocked in passionate kisses.
Bonus (as in optional): What kind of birth control do you use?
i really shoulda been pregnant a few times already but i guess it really wasn't my time and he wasn't the dude to be tied for all of eternity. i was on the pill and between those hormones and my own active late-twenties womanhood, i got thicker in all the good places. i like the ease of transition pills give you but condoms are always in the bottom drawer.
none of which was on my who-to-do list for this valentine's weekend. i wanted to touch (at some address that wasn't my own) and be touched (at somebody's spa). but one of the best moments of my 3 day weekend was watching shaq give me a new nickname. i shall call them "the big legendaries". the them will take on different meaning and intrigue as i see fit.
i didn't know who i missed more this weekend: the ex, the first or the missed opportunity. . . .
would you believe i waited up for these questions? hi, i'm private and i have a problem. . . .
1. What is your favorite charity? Do you you give your time or just money to that charity?
my church. i give both.
2. Describe your bed. What side do you sleep on?
queen where ive gotta many bruises. i sleep on the side closest to the door (right) unless i have an overnight guest.
3. How important is a partner's kissing ability?
important enough to make a difference. i don't think it would work out well if we couldn't get the kissing worked out. i'm a kissy face. and it's a given that he should kiss other places well also.
4. Have you ever "taken advantage" of a person under the influence of alcohol? Have you ever been "taken advantage" of while under the influence of alcohol?
i don't drink in excess enough to be taken advantage of. although the one time he brought smirnoff ices (yes i'm kinda a light weight - but i did drink like 3), i decided to investigate the whoopla about this head thing. ive never heard a complaint then or since.
5. Ever tried to replay the famous scene from From Here to Eternity? How was it?
not at a beach. but i have pinned and been pinned against walls, beds, cars, speakers, etc. while liplocked in passionate kisses.
Bonus (as in optional): What kind of birth control do you use?
i really shoulda been pregnant a few times already but i guess it really wasn't my time and he wasn't the dude to be tied for all of eternity. i was on the pill and between those hormones and my own active late-twenties womanhood, i got thicker in all the good places. i like the ease of transition pills give you but condoms are always in the bottom drawer.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Nobody Beats the Wiz
I'm watching Seinfeld and trying to ignore the dull ache for someone I'm not supposed to have . . . He was the Wiz. And nobody beats the Wiz! Which reminds me I need to get more batteries and go back through my rolodex.
1. What do you think is the un-sexiest part of the body?
male toes and toenails. so ignored and undressed. and goodness, if he plays a sport like basketball, his toes prolly don't look like a box a kittens.
2. Toilet paper: over, under, or what the hell are you talking about?
over. i like when it hangs over. (wink, wink)
3. Have you ever called in sick to stay in bed with a sexual partner?
absolutely. i've emailed out at 4am after i realized rounds 1 and 2 were going to lead to more.
4. Did your parents have a "birds & bees" talk with you? If so, at what age?
not really. although my mother pridefully tells her friends that we matched flacid penises to their erect counterparts in this "know your body"/sex ed book i checked out from the library. when i was about 16 she told me i know entirely too much about sex and stds and protection to bring a baby in this house. her line to me was 'i can't hold my hand over your coochie so you have to make the right decisions for yourself'.
5. What is one thing a someone could do to you to rock your world?
knowing when to grab me up by my waist. and there's nothing like a mutual orgasm to put each other to sleep.
Bonus (as in optional):What does sex mean to you?
it means i trust you with the best parts of me (if only momentarily). it means there's something to get me wet beyond just what the eyes can see. it means we have te ability to communicate with our bodies. it means i might wanna keep you around. sex is a door for potentially more. and if it's good, you might have to go on the speed dial!
1. What do you think is the un-sexiest part of the body?
male toes and toenails. so ignored and undressed. and goodness, if he plays a sport like basketball, his toes prolly don't look like a box a kittens.
2. Toilet paper: over, under, or what the hell are you talking about?
over. i like when it hangs over. (wink, wink)
3. Have you ever called in sick to stay in bed with a sexual partner?
absolutely. i've emailed out at 4am after i realized rounds 1 and 2 were going to lead to more.
4. Did your parents have a "birds & bees" talk with you? If so, at what age?
not really. although my mother pridefully tells her friends that we matched flacid penises to their erect counterparts in this "know your body"/sex ed book i checked out from the library. when i was about 16 she told me i know entirely too much about sex and stds and protection to bring a baby in this house. her line to me was 'i can't hold my hand over your coochie so you have to make the right decisions for yourself'.
5. What is one thing a someone could do to you to rock your world?
knowing when to grab me up by my waist. and there's nothing like a mutual orgasm to put each other to sleep.
Bonus (as in optional):What does sex mean to you?
it means i trust you with the best parts of me (if only momentarily). it means there's something to get me wet beyond just what the eyes can see. it means we have te ability to communicate with our bodies. it means i might wanna keep you around. sex is a door for potentially more. and if it's good, you might have to go on the speed dial!
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
TMI Tuesday - The Quickie
No preamble today. . . You should be ready and waiting . . . This is a quickie.
1. When you sleep with someone, how much or how little contact do you like to have?
I'm a cuddlebug. Once the heat subsides, I like to sleep feeling his heartbeat on my back with my heart in his hand. I'm the spooning type.
2. What do you think there is a appropriate amount of time for a divorce parent to date before introducing the kids to the "new" "special" person in their life?
I don't think you can circle a date on the calendar for that. I think the parent should make that call based on the level of commitment he/she has with her significant other and the age and maturity level of the child(ren). I'm not with that whole this is Uncle Bubba thing that some people do. Ain't that many Uncles in the world. I'm not a parent yet, but if I were, I wouldn't have a revolving door of dudes around my children.
3. Which ONE do you wish you had more of in bed... romance, experimentation or foreplay?
I guess I'll say experimentation although "in bed" is a criteria of the question. Romance and foreplay can (and should) take place outside of the bedroom. A bed is a minor detail that may be overlooked. And I have a couple of places and things I wanna cross off my list . . . .
4. What do you thinks makes a kiss great?
The feelings shared between us. Nothing worst than a passionless kiss.
5. Describe your sex life in two words.
Recently ended (sigh)
Bonus (as in optional): Do you remember a time when you were having sex that you smile or even laugh about now? Do tell....
Lmao. I had surgery on a Wednesday. That Friday, my ex came by to help me. . . . and after I helped myself, I took a nap (put myself to sleep). When he called to check on me later that day, he tossed around words like amazing and outstanding. Look, ma! No hands! lmao
1. When you sleep with someone, how much or how little contact do you like to have?
I'm a cuddlebug. Once the heat subsides, I like to sleep feeling his heartbeat on my back with my heart in his hand. I'm the spooning type.
2. What do you think there is a appropriate amount of time for a divorce parent to date before introducing the kids to the "new" "special" person in their life?
I don't think you can circle a date on the calendar for that. I think the parent should make that call based on the level of commitment he/she has with her significant other and the age and maturity level of the child(ren). I'm not with that whole this is Uncle Bubba thing that some people do. Ain't that many Uncles in the world. I'm not a parent yet, but if I were, I wouldn't have a revolving door of dudes around my children.
3. Which ONE do you wish you had more of in bed... romance, experimentation or foreplay?
I guess I'll say experimentation although "in bed" is a criteria of the question. Romance and foreplay can (and should) take place outside of the bedroom. A bed is a minor detail that may be overlooked. And I have a couple of places and things I wanna cross off my list . . . .
4. What do you thinks makes a kiss great?
The feelings shared between us. Nothing worst than a passionless kiss.
5. Describe your sex life in two words.
Recently ended (sigh)
Bonus (as in optional): Do you remember a time when you were having sex that you smile or even laugh about now? Do tell....
Lmao. I had surgery on a Wednesday. That Friday, my ex came by to help me. . . . and after I helped myself, I took a nap (put myself to sleep). When he called to check on me later that day, he tossed around words like amazing and outstanding. Look, ma! No hands! lmao
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
Movies Anyone?
I was just having this conversation about fun at the movies a few weeks ago . . . Even came up in convo with my mother! Lmao
1. What was the last movie you saw in a theater?
Not Easily Broken. Kept thinking how much Morris Chestnut reminds me of my first.
2. What is your favorite movie theater snack?
Butterfinger Bites (or Sour Patch Kids) and a Pepsi.
3. Have you ever snuck in 'outside' food into a theater?
Sure did. Had Subways when I went Saturday. Little boy tried to tell me I had to finish my soda before I went in. Hell, I have panties older than him! So you know I was sipping all through the movie.
4. Have you ever made out in a theater?
Absolutely. To this day, I haven't seen The Rock with Sean Connery or anything beyond the opening scene of The. Peacemaker with George Clooney.
5. What is the 'farthest' you have gone in a theater?
He disappeared under my shirt for a while and our hands disappeared beneath each other's waistbands.
Bonus (as in optional): What is one of your favorite movie sex scene?
Unfaithful has a few good ones. Blown Away (a Showtime 3am special) has helped me sleep quite a few nights back in the day. There is this scene in Ali but that's just because Nona Gaye is my non-lesbian lesbian crush if there's such a thing. Lol. Oh and the shower scene of I Robot is reshot as me and Will's nipples and not just Will when I show that movie. Lmao
I think I need a Netflicks account!
1. What was the last movie you saw in a theater?
Not Easily Broken. Kept thinking how much Morris Chestnut reminds me of my first.
2. What is your favorite movie theater snack?
Butterfinger Bites (or Sour Patch Kids) and a Pepsi.
3. Have you ever snuck in 'outside' food into a theater?
Sure did. Had Subways when I went Saturday. Little boy tried to tell me I had to finish my soda before I went in. Hell, I have panties older than him! So you know I was sipping all through the movie.
4. Have you ever made out in a theater?
Absolutely. To this day, I haven't seen The Rock with Sean Connery or anything beyond the opening scene of The. Peacemaker with George Clooney.
5. What is the 'farthest' you have gone in a theater?
He disappeared under my shirt for a while and our hands disappeared beneath each other's waistbands.
Bonus (as in optional): What is one of your favorite movie sex scene?
Unfaithful has a few good ones. Blown Away (a Showtime 3am special) has helped me sleep quite a few nights back in the day. There is this scene in Ali but that's just because Nona Gaye is my non-lesbian lesbian crush if there's such a thing. Lol. Oh and the shower scene of I Robot is reshot as me and Will's nipples and not just Will when I show that movie. Lmao
I think I need a Netflicks account!
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
The Point of It All?
1. Have you ever dated/married purely for money?
Nope. I've kept someone around because we had great sex though. Mismatched maturity/mentality with complimentary/complementary sexual compatibility.
2. What is your type?
Taller than me (6'2+ preferred). "Climbable" is a word I like to use. Chocolate. Nice smile. Ability to make me smile and laugh. Able to pull off a suit and tie. Employed. Heterosexual. Not married/involved. Eyelashes. All the things I can ascertain from a first (or third) glance. lol
3. What is the best sex game you have ever played?
I've banned myself from playing Truth or Dare. If I do play, I stick to Truths and let the dares happen to me . . . like the time I had to keep a straight face while my ex (at the time) licked an ice cube all over my back until it melted in a room full of his teammates and my fellow cheerleaders. I couldn't. And I'm glad he had his mother's car that night.
4. Have you ever given or received an orgasm from a person whose last name you did not know?
Nope. Pinkie doesn't have a last name.
5. Have you ever masturbated in front of a sexual partner?
Yep. I've masturbated with him.
Nope. I've kept someone around because we had great sex though. Mismatched maturity/mentality with complimentary/complementary sexual compatibility.
2. What is your type?
Taller than me (6'2+ preferred). "Climbable" is a word I like to use. Chocolate. Nice smile. Ability to make me smile and laugh. Able to pull off a suit and tie. Employed. Heterosexual. Not married/involved. Eyelashes. All the things I can ascertain from a first (or third) glance. lol
3. What is the best sex game you have ever played?
I've banned myself from playing Truth or Dare. If I do play, I stick to Truths and let the dares happen to me . . . like the time I had to keep a straight face while my ex (at the time) licked an ice cube all over my back until it melted in a room full of his teammates and my fellow cheerleaders. I couldn't. And I'm glad he had his mother's car that night.
4. Have you ever given or received an orgasm from a person whose last name you did not know?
Nope. Pinkie doesn't have a last name.
5. Have you ever masturbated in front of a sexual partner?
Yep. I've masturbated with him.
Monday, January 12, 2009
The Basics
1. On a scale of 1-10, how satisfied are you with your sex life?
7ish. Only because it's intermittent.
2. If someone shoves you up against a wall while kissing you, your reaction is?
Kiss back! Mama didn't raise no fool! And see how many items of clothing we can get off without breaking the bond.
3. What is the most romantic thing anyone has ever done or said to you?
My first wrote "take me, I'm yours" in a Valentine's Day card. So I did. That night. (Hey, I was young). lol Since then? . . .
4. Where is the most unusual place you have ever had sex?
on top of a trunk box in a van in a dark parking lot in the winter.
5. How do you liked to be kissed?
Often.
Bonus (as in optional):Most embarrassing sexual moment?
I once got up to change the cd because it stopped. And I wanted to stop.
7ish. Only because it's intermittent.
2. If someone shoves you up against a wall while kissing you, your reaction is?
Kiss back! Mama didn't raise no fool! And see how many items of clothing we can get off without breaking the bond.
3. What is the most romantic thing anyone has ever done or said to you?
My first wrote "take me, I'm yours" in a Valentine's Day card. So I did. That night. (Hey, I was young). lol Since then? . . .
4. Where is the most unusual place you have ever had sex?
on top of a trunk box in a van in a dark parking lot in the winter.
5. How do you liked to be kissed?
Often.
Bonus (as in optional):Most embarrassing sexual moment?
I once got up to change the cd because it stopped. And I wanted to stop.
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
I Shall Call It Mini Me
1. Why do you keep a blog?
i talk to myself 'cause there is no one to talk to. people ask me why, why i do what i do!
2. Who is one long lost blogger you wish would come back?
ain't been here long enough to miss anybody for real. my sister hasn't posted in over 2 months though. only one on my blog roll that doesn't rotate lol
3. If you made a New Year's Resolution, did you break it already? If you did not make one, why?
nope. i said i wasn't gonna hold my tongue. and i haven't. i speak my mind. don't like my peaches, then don't shake my tree!!!
4. People who still have their outside Christmas lights up. Festive or Lazy? Discuss.
they have until MLK Day to take them down. They get a ticket for turning them on after the 1st (grace period given until the saturday after the new year). after january 31, there's a ticket and a penalty. by valentine's day, you are fined heavily and your picture will be posted as a repeat offender in a 5 mile radius of you home. lmao
5. What is the last annoying song that got trapped in your head?
nothing lately. got too many thoughts running through my head and my heart.
*ETA: Take that back. I hear Ring My Bells now. Ringalingaling!
6. Have you ever worn or tried edible underwear? What are your thoughts on it?
never tried. i don't need edible underwear to intice someone to pull up for a meal. (wow talk about uncensored)
Bonus: If you could do one bad thing and get away with it, what would you do and why?
i have. so i can't tell you that. then i wouldn't have gotten away with it right? hehehe
the other thing involves a tall dude, some foreplay and the public. but they can't consume. only the tall dude : )
i talk to myself 'cause there is no one to talk to. people ask me why, why i do what i do!
2. Who is one long lost blogger you wish would come back?
ain't been here long enough to miss anybody for real. my sister hasn't posted in over 2 months though. only one on my blog roll that doesn't rotate lol
3. If you made a New Year's Resolution, did you break it already? If you did not make one, why?
nope. i said i wasn't gonna hold my tongue. and i haven't. i speak my mind. don't like my peaches, then don't shake my tree!!!
4. People who still have their outside Christmas lights up. Festive or Lazy? Discuss.
they have until MLK Day to take them down. They get a ticket for turning them on after the 1st (grace period given until the saturday after the new year). after january 31, there's a ticket and a penalty. by valentine's day, you are fined heavily and your picture will be posted as a repeat offender in a 5 mile radius of you home. lmao
5. What is the last annoying song that got trapped in your head?
nothing lately. got too many thoughts running through my head and my heart.
*ETA: Take that back. I hear Ring My Bells now. Ringalingaling!
6. Have you ever worn or tried edible underwear? What are your thoughts on it?
never tried. i don't need edible underwear to intice someone to pull up for a meal. (wow talk about uncensored)
Bonus: If you could do one bad thing and get away with it, what would you do and why?
i have. so i can't tell you that. then i wouldn't have gotten away with it right? hehehe
the other thing involves a tall dude, some foreplay and the public. but they can't consume. only the tall dude : )
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
I'd Rather . . .
I thought some time alone
Was what we really needed . . .
I forgot I loved this Lutha song. But anyway, here are the TMI Tuesday questions. I'm too tired for a real preamble.
'Would you rather...' edition
1. Would you rather be stranded on an island alone or with someone you dislike/don't get along with?
someone i dislike. gotta get to the bottom of why we don't get along. either we will work it out or i'll just igg them. lol
2. Would you rather accidentally walk in on your parents having sex or have them walk in on you?
my mother might wanna share her stories . . . and my memory is too good. don't need that sight emblazoned forever.
3. Would you rather be snapped by paparazzi during a nipple slip or while exiting a car with out any underwear?(guys, consider similar circumstances)
ummmm there is no such thing as "nipple slip" in my world. the girls like to announce themselves everytime the wind blows. 2 words: bottle caps.
4. Would you rather not have sex for two years or not be able to use the Internet for two years?
internet. that's a no-brainer.
5. Would you rather find true love or 1 million dollars?
love. another no-brainer. money doesn't love you back.
Bonus (as in optional): If you had to choose *one* sexual position for the rest of your life, what would it be? Why?
sit back and enjoy the ride. i'll drive! bc i'll take us where we both wanna go and if i get lost, i'm sure we will both enjoy the scenic route!
Was what we really needed . . .
I forgot I loved this Lutha song. But anyway, here are the TMI Tuesday questions. I'm too tired for a real preamble.
'Would you rather...' edition
1. Would you rather be stranded on an island alone or with someone you dislike/don't get along with?
someone i dislike. gotta get to the bottom of why we don't get along. either we will work it out or i'll just igg them. lol
2. Would you rather accidentally walk in on your parents having sex or have them walk in on you?
my mother might wanna share her stories . . . and my memory is too good. don't need that sight emblazoned forever.
3. Would you rather be snapped by paparazzi during a nipple slip or while exiting a car with out any underwear?(guys, consider similar circumstances)
ummmm there is no such thing as "nipple slip" in my world. the girls like to announce themselves everytime the wind blows. 2 words: bottle caps.
4. Would you rather not have sex for two years or not be able to use the Internet for two years?
internet. that's a no-brainer.
5. Would you rather find true love or 1 million dollars?
love. another no-brainer. money doesn't love you back.
Bonus (as in optional): If you had to choose *one* sexual position for the rest of your life, what would it be? Why?
sit back and enjoy the ride. i'll drive! bc i'll take us where we both wanna go and if i get lost, i'm sure we will both enjoy the scenic route!
Friday, January 2, 2009
Wanna Ride?
so day 2 of 09, i wrote a poem. seriously? i decidedly havent written a poem in a while. so i have no idea where this came from. im so open right now. hold me! lmao ack!
My heart is a rollercoaster
Wanna ride?
Gentle promises envelop us with syncopated rhythms
Drumming our ears as we reach the max
An apex beyond the last
Wanna ride?
Jarring turns, paths untold unfold before us
Pressured momentum pushes us to the point
Where feet fledge on the edge of fight or flight
White-knuckled hands hold us together
Bearing the weight to support
No wait for support
Degrees of descent complete
The bar has been raised
Nothing lower than this
Wanna ride?
So much more in store
Each step impacted by the moment before
Storied memories between laughs
And promises to ride with you again. . .
With you, I’m me. Out loud.
All is fair in love.
Wanna ride?
Wanna Ride?
My heart is a rollercoaster
Wanna ride?
Gentle promises envelop us with syncopated rhythms
Drumming our ears as we reach the max
An apex beyond the last
Wanna ride?
Jarring turns, paths untold unfold before us
Pressured momentum pushes us to the point
Where feet fledge on the edge of fight or flight
White-knuckled hands hold us together
Bearing the weight to support
No wait for support
Degrees of descent complete
The bar has been raised
Nothing lower than this
Wanna ride?
So much more in store
Each step impacted by the moment before
Storied memories between laughs
And promises to ride with you again. . .
With you, I’m me. Out loud.
All is fair in love.
Wanna ride?
The Countdown
i decided to drop a prospective meme here since i did a retrospective one on the other. besides this meme needs room to breathe. . . .
10 things you wish you could say to 10 different people:
- you made the right decision for all the wrong reasons.
- i think they were right; you are jealous of me.
- i think they were right; i was jealous of what you tricked me into believing you had with her.
- if i told you the hows and whys that might be too much. enough to change the landscape of who i am, and therefore who we are.
- i hate that i have to share a family tree with you considering how much you effed up my childhood.
- you don't have to sit on every erect man you encounter.
- i love you more than you know.
- i'm sorry that ring didn't make you happy.
- i was faking.
- i don't respect her game. dunno why you picked that hoodrat. suffer through that decision.
9 things about yourself:
- my feet are usually the coldest things on my body
- i have premonitions and deja vus. scares the mess outta me sometimes.
- i have to work through some sexual hangups.
- i've been using my full name since the 4th grade.
- my parents got married 15 months after i was born.
- i'm more afraid of myself than i let on.
- i am a mushy, emotional, cornball
- i am determined to have the first healthy marriage in my family. very doable since i'm foolish enough to break the cycle.
- i can detach myself from my body and go into functional shock mode. a dangerously handy trick i picked up during my childhood.
8 ways to win your heart:
- be genuine.
- show me your heart when i show you mine.
- make me smile when tears drown my heart.
- be silly.
- show me you're capable of love
- see ME beyond the curves and the 5 letter bra size
- lead me. support me. inspire me. motivate me. improve with me.
- know when a situation calls for a fight, a hug, a tough, space or a prayer. and do all 5.
7 things that cross your mind often:
- okay, now what?
- who is gonna have my chocolately baby girl for me?
- where's the damn reciprocity?!?!
- why are you so afraid of succeeding?
- am I fired yet?
- what is your purpose in my life (now)?
- is there something wrong with me?
(as you can see, they are all questions with answers that change like the wind)
6 things you do before you go to sleep:
- check my blog roll.
- wrap my hair.
- set the sleep timer on the tv
- play a game on my BB
- decide who/what i want to focus on before i go to bed (gotta steer my dreams sometimes. wink, wink)
- read the latest overheard in new york posts
5 people you couldn't live without:
- my mother
- my sister
- my church fam (closer than my real family in many ways)
- (damn how sad is it that im stuck here?) my father's mother (and her quite strength, resilience and faith in God)
- ummmm . . . the voices in my head. does that count if i name them and/or attribute them to real people?
4 things you're wearing right now:
- headscarf
- tee shirt
- shorts
- ummmm . . . a smile (i was reaching with the scarf lol)
3 songs that fit your life perfectly:
(changes depending on what's on the ipod)
- someone - musiq
- her heart - anthony hamilton
- butterflies - raheem devaughn
2 things you want to do before you die:
- be a mommy (and all the love, joy and beauty that brings)
- be a grandmommy (and all the legacy of love, joy and beauty that continues)
1 confession:
- i would have . . . still would
10 things you wish you could say to 10 different people:
- you made the right decision for all the wrong reasons.
- i think they were right; you are jealous of me.
- i think they were right; i was jealous of what you tricked me into believing you had with her.
- if i told you the hows and whys that might be too much. enough to change the landscape of who i am, and therefore who we are.
- i hate that i have to share a family tree with you considering how much you effed up my childhood.
- you don't have to sit on every erect man you encounter.
- i love you more than you know.
- i'm sorry that ring didn't make you happy.
- i was faking.
- i don't respect her game. dunno why you picked that hoodrat. suffer through that decision.
9 things about yourself:
- my feet are usually the coldest things on my body
- i have premonitions and deja vus. scares the mess outta me sometimes.
- i have to work through some sexual hangups.
- i've been using my full name since the 4th grade.
- my parents got married 15 months after i was born.
- i'm more afraid of myself than i let on.
- i am a mushy, emotional, cornball
- i am determined to have the first healthy marriage in my family. very doable since i'm foolish enough to break the cycle.
- i can detach myself from my body and go into functional shock mode. a dangerously handy trick i picked up during my childhood.
8 ways to win your heart:
- be genuine.
- show me your heart when i show you mine.
- make me smile when tears drown my heart.
- be silly.
- show me you're capable of love
- see ME beyond the curves and the 5 letter bra size
- lead me. support me. inspire me. motivate me. improve with me.
- know when a situation calls for a fight, a hug, a tough, space or a prayer. and do all 5.
7 things that cross your mind often:
- okay, now what?
- who is gonna have my chocolately baby girl for me?
- where's the damn reciprocity?!?!
- why are you so afraid of succeeding?
- am I fired yet?
- what is your purpose in my life (now)?
- is there something wrong with me?
(as you can see, they are all questions with answers that change like the wind)
6 things you do before you go to sleep:
- check my blog roll.
- wrap my hair.
- set the sleep timer on the tv
- play a game on my BB
- decide who/what i want to focus on before i go to bed (gotta steer my dreams sometimes. wink, wink)
- read the latest overheard in new york posts
5 people you couldn't live without:
- my mother
- my sister
- my church fam (closer than my real family in many ways)
- (damn how sad is it that im stuck here?) my father's mother (and her quite strength, resilience and faith in God)
- ummmm . . . the voices in my head. does that count if i name them and/or attribute them to real people?
4 things you're wearing right now:
- headscarf
- tee shirt
- shorts
- ummmm . . . a smile (i was reaching with the scarf lol)
3 songs that fit your life perfectly:
(changes depending on what's on the ipod)
- someone - musiq
- her heart - anthony hamilton
- butterflies - raheem devaughn
2 things you want to do before you die:
- be a mommy (and all the love, joy and beauty that brings)
- be a grandmommy (and all the legacy of love, joy and beauty that continues)
1 confession:
- i would have . . . still would
Thursday, January 1, 2009
De-Flowering Myself
As you can see, I have another blog. It's getting muddled with TMI and other post for private eyes. This is the closeted blog where I can let my hair down (or trim it into a star) or just be less censored.
Welcome to my adult, unadulterated thoughts . . . Might be a bumpy start but I promise to make sure you get yours!
Welcome to my adult, unadulterated thoughts . . . Might be a bumpy start but I promise to make sure you get yours!
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